[soapgirl411]

Dear April,
I met this guy online and we started dating. We would email, text and IM every day. We were in a relationship for 5 months and only went on dates 3 times. During the time we talked he went out of the country for 10 days. The day after he left, I got a call from a withheld number claiming to be his wife and harassing me. She said to stay away from him and that she knows where I work and where I live. I remember on the last date that he said his mom was not like other mom’s and she wants him to be with his ex girlfriend who he broke up with twice before. I told him about it and he said it was probably his mom. He said she did this once before. Then she started harassing me by text messaging me and calling me. He didn’t think it was a big deal because she won’t do anything. I even filed a police report on her. Then I found out later on that the woman his mom wanted him to be with started harassing me. Then my mom got involved and started harassing her. I had her number blocked so she couldn’t harass me anymore. He still couldn’t talk to his mom. I know that if he really cared about me he would of stood up for me but he didn’t. The final nail in the coffin is when we went to a baseball game together and she found out that I was going to be there. So then called me from another phone and I didn’t answer. Then she had to call her son and after that he would hardly talk to me and I knew something was wrong. He wouldn’t answer my texts for two days and then I finally got a hold of him by email. He then said we couldn’t be together because he doesn’t know what to believe anymore and there was too much trouble with our families. His mom said that my mom was harassing his mom and saying that he kidnapped me. It was just all a big lie and he believe her over me.I thought he really cared about me and maybe loved me by telling me that he was glad that god brought me into his life, I opened his eyes to a lot things that he thought he would or could do, I was the one he wanted to have kids with, he felt something with me that he never felt before. So the relationship was over.
I found out 2 weeks later that he was engaged to this woman that he has broke up with twice, said that he didn’t love her and he was only in the relationship because his mother wanted him there. Of course when I found this out I was heartbroken. I have always wondered if what he said was true or actions are bigger than words. I am thinking that he never loved me because he is now married to her. I think how can he marry a woman who he supposedly hates just because his mom wants him to? The mother hated me even before meeting me and I know now that I don’t want anything to do with her. I did fall in love with him and it took me a while to figure that out. I fought it so long and waited till it was too late. I told him I loved him but he still ended it. He will be my first love. I was told I bit a bullet which is probably true. I didn’t really get any closure from this and I have such a hard time understanding why he is with her and if he really cared for me.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Thank you for your e-mail — I want to answer it, and I will — but first, please post it as a “reply” to the string of posts you already started here. It’s a lot easier for me to see all your posts in one place — even if they’re about different relationships. I’ll look out for it, and as soon as you do, I’ll answer you there. 🙂

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[soapgirl411]

Ok April. I did it. thank you.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Great

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