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I’m in a bad situation. I love a girl very much but the girl says the she loves me but simply as her best friend! The day i have proposed her, she said that she didn’t want to spoil our relationships as it is. She is very frank to me. She said that with her first boyfriend, she has done many things, maybe also in a sexual intercourse! However it has no effect on me as i love her very much. Now she has a new boyfriend and she said that i also must have another one rather than her. All the time she texts me on the mobile as if she rarely texts her new boyfriend.She says that i am too special for her. I’m the one which she shares all her secrets,which she had never told anyone apart from me! She says that i must get a girl which is better than her. She says forget her as a love but do remain her best friend!The problem is that i rarely meet her as the distance is long but still everyday she remains contact with me! She says she texts me more than her new boyfriend!Can anyone tell me why she doesn’t want me as her boyfriend?To her,i am a very good boy!But does she love me but she doesn’t want to express her?

[Anonymous]

Please April Masini, give me some advice or tips in order to help me!
I am in a serious trouble.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

This woman is using you. She doesn’t want you as a boyfriend — she’s made it very clear — but she does keep you on the hook by texting you all the time and telling you what a special friend you are to her. She is not someone who has your best interests at heart. If she did, she’d realize you’re in love with her (you proposed to her, after all) and that to keep you on as a friend is giving you false hope and hurting you.

My advice, as hard as this may be to hear, is to forget about her altogether, and find someone to love who is local, single, available and loves you back — as a boyfriend, not as a friend.

[Anonymous]

Thank-you April!
I think that you are right, maybe its high time for me to forget her, in every possible way!
Thanks for the advice!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m glad I was able to help you — good luck!! 😀

[Danica Danna]

It’s simply the friendship is more valuable than being a boyfriend. She doesn’t want to ruin your friendship because she trust you so much to the point that she sharing her secrets with you. She’s comfortable to be your bestfriend and nothing more than a friend. She doesn’t want to hurt you that’s why she said that you have to find for another girl that is perfect for you because she knows that she can’t give you the love you want. She loves you as a friend.

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