If you really feel like you’re suicidal, you need help that I can’t give you here. [i]Please pick up the phone and call a suicide hotline or a hospital or a police station and tell them that you’re having feelings about ending your life and you need help. They can give you medically professional help. Please do that now. [/i]
If you’re not feeling suicidal, but just desperate and depressed, I can help you. Your ex-girlfriend isn’t interested in a serious relationship. Maybe she’s not mature enough. Maybe she’s not ready. Maybe she’s met someone else. Whatever the reason, you know she’s playing games with you and you don’t like it. Nobody would. 😳
Here’s where you can help yourself. It takes two people to play a game. If you refuse to play and remove yourself from the situation, then she won’t be able to affect you with this back and forth, push pull that is hurting you. So my advice is to accept the pain of the relationship ending, and move on to prevent further pain and to give yourself the time and space to heal….. and find someone who IS right for you. 😛 I know that this is easier said than done because you have feelings for her and a three year relationship with her. But understand, she’s not the one for you any more.
As for living with her mother in her mother’s house, it’s time for you to move. You’re putting yourself in an emotionally charged and upsetting situation by staying at her home, so either get your own place, temporarily move in with family and friends, or get some roommates until you’re back on your feet.
I know that ending an engagement is hard, but you’ll be MUCH better off in the long run, because this woman is not going to be your Ms. Right. 🙁
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