[April Masini, your AskApril]

Good idea!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If you want to continue seeing him, why are you taking a break?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Yes! 🙂

[April Masini, your AskApril]

How old are you both?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

This article might help: [url]https://www.askapril.com/dating-tips-dating-tips-for-shy-guys-and-shy-girls–16.html[/url]. 🙂

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re very welcome. 🙂

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You should move on. There were too many important problems between the two of you, including a physical fight, that make her decision to end things wise. I know you’re disappointed, but I think you’ll have a much easier time if you choose someone who is more compatible with you. 😉

[April Masini, your AskApril]

The basic problem is you’re spending too much time with him too soon, to get a clear perspective on whether or not he’s someone you want to continue dating, let alone have sex with. Usually, I suggest you spend the first three months of dating someone to decide if you even want to continue seeing him. If you do, then you should spend the next three months of dating him to decide if you want to be monogamous. Usually, that involves seeing him once a week or more. Pretty normal.

You’ve put the time you’re spending together in overdrive, so the relationship feels a lot more intense than it would if you were dating on a more normal time frame. That’s the basic problem. There are a lot of different ways to get to know someone. Spending a certain number of hours together is one way. But also spending a certain number of months together is another. Sometimes seeing someone once a month for four hours allows you better perspective than spending 20 hours together in three days. You’re trying to figure out if this guy wants a commitment to you before having sex with him and the obvious answer is: It’s way too soon to know.

So if you want to take pressure off the sex question, my advice is to spread out the time your’e with him over time.

I hope that helps. 🙂

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If he’s always with someone, then you should wave, smile and say hello. Ask him a question about what you have in common — the apartment building!

And play the field…. don’t focus so much on one guy who may or may not be interested. 😉 Definitely flirt with him, but also smile at 20 new men each day!! You’ll definitely get some interest that way and won’t feel so desperate or needy, which is a real turnoff if it comes across. 😕

Hope that helps!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

First of all, you definitely can ask her for her number out of the blue. Since you’re going to see her at her workplace, while she’s working, she may not be able to have much of a conversation with you, but she can definitely give you her number.

Second, flirting means complimenting her, asking her questions (which might be perfect for this situation), and leaving her a great tip, in this case, since she’s a waitress! So try all that, and remember that flirting takes practice, and you have to be willing to take a pie to the face and fail, in order to succeed. Besides, it’s flirting. You’re not performing brain surgery. Just do it, and don’t worry so much. 🙂

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m happy to answer your questions, but first…. please post this new post as a reply to the string of posts you’ve started on this site, here: . It’s much easier to get better advice when anyone responding (including me!) can see your history in one place. I’ll look out for your new post. 😉

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Got it. Thank you for the age information. I think that’s the key here. You’re both very young and don’t have a lot of experience, so you’re right to wonder if there’s more you can do to make your sex lives better.

First of all, you have to be responsible for your own body. You have to get to know it, and just because you’re having sex doesn’t mean you know your body. It just means that you’re engaging in a sexual act. There’s way more to sex than the act itself. For instance, you can go shopping and buy milk, or you can be a great shopper and find the best milk, at the best price at the coolest store! Same with sex. You can have sex, or you can have really interesting sex that makes you both want more. If you know how it feels to have sexual pleasure, you can explain or guide or let you boyfriend know how you like to be touched and what makes you feel good. In spite of his being two years older than you, he may not know how to make you feel good, and guys usually don’t like to fail so if they don’t know how to do something, they sometimes won’t explore — they’ll stick with what they know works, even if it isn’t working well. A woman’s body can be very overwhelming for a guy who is new to sex, because so much happens in different places than what he’s used to on his own body. So figure out what you like, on your own, and share with him in a way that doesn’t make him feel like he’s failed, but instead, as if you’re sharing this great new secret with him and you want him in on the journey with you.

For now, stick with the relationship — and see if you can make things better. If you can, you may really enjoy the relationship more than you are now. If you can’t, then maybe it’s not really the sex, it’s the relationship that’s faded. But give this a try. 🙂

Hope that helps.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Great!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re very welcome!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I know you’re afraid of rejection, and you’re not alone. But you have to face your fears to get your answer. If she’s interested in you, she’ll be happy you asked her out. If she isn’t interested in you, she’ll give you a maybe or a flat out no. And if you get a no, then you don’t have to waste any more time on someone who’s not into you.

If you don’t want to invite her to dinner, then invite her to see a movie with you on a Saturday night — but definitely make it a date — not a hanging out situation where she isn’t sure if you’re her friend or a potential boyfriend. I know you don’t want something formal, but I just want to make sure that you understand that the benefit of a formal date is that there’s no mistaking it for a friend zone situation.

Be clear. Stand up for what you want, and go for it! 😉

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