[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think she’s flirting with you.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re in the friend zone. 😕

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Cute!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Don’t declare your love, but do flirt with her. You’re very serious about your strong feelings, and that’s scaring her away. She doesn’t share your feelings right now, and you’re coming on too strong at the moment. Remember that your goal is to get her to get to know you and like you — not overcome her. 😉 If you can lighten up with her, and still have the same goal of getting to know her, and winning her over, you’ll do much better with this relationship. For instance, instead of a love poem for someone you’ve never dated, why not send a stuffed animal and invite her to do something fun like play tennis or see a movie? You can send her love poems when you get to know her better and feel that they’ll be better received. Right now, for her, they’re coming out of left field and they’re pushing her away which is why she’s wanting to bring a friend to lighten the mood. If she thinks you like her and want to get to know her, rather than making a declaration that will overwhelm her, she’ll be less likely to feel the responsibility of your feelings. 🙂

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re very welcome. Stay focused on being healthy and keeping healthy people around you. 🙂

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I know that rejection can be a very harsh reality, but just because you want him doesn’t mean he wants you. In fact, he doesn’t. 🙁 He’s made it very clear that he doesn’t want to be with you, and you should respect his feelings. Time to move on and find someone who does want to be with you. 😉

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Look, you shouldn’t be meeting anyone in a parking lot at 3 a.m. 😯

And this is your time to work on you. Stop wondering about him and reacting to him. You have to stay strong and clear and focus on being a single mother. Just send him snail mail letters once a month, on the first of the month, to tell him if you have a doctor’s appointment so he can join you. But don’t meet him any more. 😉

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Don’t approach him about your trust issues. You’ll make a mountain out of a molehill and ruin things for yourself. Instead, work on yourself. If you want a better relationship with a guy, and you have competition, dial up your game instead of complaining about other women. You’ll get a lot better response if you win him over rather than complain about what threatens you. 😉

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I don’t know how old you both are, but in general, if you want to be a girlfriend or a date, then you have to act like one. And you have to allow the guy to treat you like one — or not, and if he doesn’t, you have to understand that he’s not interested in dating you. It sounds like the two of you made out at work and then he became distant. That’s not a good sign. 😕 Then he started ignoring your calls and messages. Another bad sign. 😕 Then you “ended up seeing him” at 1 or 2 a.m. That’s a booty call, not a date. Driving around and making out doesn’t show he’s into you — it’s kind of the opposite. And then he became distant again. Then you tell him you like him. 😯 And his response is “don’t worry about it”. This isn’t a guy who is interested — and I’m wondering if you need a neon sign to get the message. 😳

Look — you may want this guy, but he really doesn’t want you. My advice is to be realistic and put yourself out of misery. top contacting him and look for someone who’s interested in you as a girlfriend. 😉

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I can hear that what you’re going through is difficult. It’s great that you’re not drinking. Make sure you go to meetings. And stay away from people who put you down and make you feel badly about yourself. 😉

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You might want to take a look at the original post: .

[April Masini, your AskApril]

No.

This isn’t a relationship that will work out, and my advice is to cut your losses and move on. When you tell me that the first year of your relationship was “a hard time off and on”, unless things go up from there, why continue? You got pregnant and decided to marry — but nothing is better. Sex one time in 18 months indicates problems on many fronts. And if he’s drinking 18 beers a day, and you’re on anti-depressants and off your own alcohol dependence, my advice is to divorce and try to just work on yourself. Get healthy. You have a daughter and she needs you. Time for you to forge a healthy life as a single parent. 😉

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I know it’s kind of archaic, but send him a letter by mail. That’s all you can do.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

😀

[April Masini, your AskApril]

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