[April Masini, your AskApril]

Please repost your question as a “reply” to the string of posts you’ve already started on this site here: . It’s much easier to give you better advice when your questions are in one place. I’ll look out for the new post and answer you there.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

No.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You are a victim of domestic violence. Your husband beat you more than once. Call the police and report all instances, in spite of the time that has passed. Go to court and ask the judge to give you an emergency restraining order. And get divorced. You are putting yourself and your son in danger as long as you don’t take these steps.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

He’s not that into you. 🙁 If he was, he’d behave like he was. I think you should move on.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Perfect! 🙂

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You should walk away and look elsewhere for someone who has compatible relationship goals to yours. 😉

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Okay, so first of all, yes, this is a break up. And no it didn’t come out of the blue — for him. No matter what he said or did, he was thinking about a break up and whatever happened in his life without you was what finally compelled him to act. He had a different experience of the relationship than you did, and there are things going on in his own life that are different that what is going on in yours.

He’s left the dogs at your house because he hasn’t found a place to house them and if you want to hold onto them because it feels like he’ll come back as long as they’re there, that’s fine for now. But if you’re ready to move on, you should give him a time when you’re going to drop the dogs off at his house. If he’s not your boyfriend, it’s not your responsibility to take care of his pets.

I hope that helps. Let me know if you have any other questions. If you do write back, let me know how old you are. That always helps.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Tell her that the sex was great. 😉

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re very welcome. 🙂

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Are you living with them?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Be upfront. It may be more painful in the short term, but it’s less so in the long term. Break up with him. Handle the business separately. Then date. In that order. 😉 Don’t cheat — especially since you have a business together. It will complicate things further.

As for finding a great guy, be clear about what you want, and don’t get involved with anyone who doesn’t have the qualities you’re looking for. And don’t rush. Use the first three months of dating to decide if you want to continue seeing him, and the second three months to decide if you want to be monogamous. Play the field and take the process seriously. 😉

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think you’re not really happy with him and you should probably find someone new to date. 😉

[April Masini, your AskApril]

The bottom line here is that it doesn’t sound like he wants another date. 🙁 If you’ve never really considered yourself a boring person, then chances are you aren’t! But if this isn’t the first time you’ve wondered this, then you may be. 😕 If you get this kind of reaction where people just kind of fade away without any seeming reason, then consider that you might be. But if it’s just this one date, it’s probably not a match, that’s all — or maybe it was an “off” date and didn’t have anything to do with your being boring or not being boring.

Instead of asking him if he thinks your boring, just flirt with him when you get the chance. 😎 (If you ask him if he thinks you’re boring, he’s going to say no, even if he thinks you are because it’s not a very polite thing for him to say and he doesn’t sound like the kind of guy who’s really interested in hurting your feelings or insulting you. So asking him isn’t going to get you an honest answer, or an answer you can do anything with.) Flirt and let him know you’re interested, and if he asks you out again, then he’s giving it a second chance and you can be your most interested and interesting self. 😉 And if he doesn’t, then chalk it up to a mismatch.

If you think you are boring, try to become more interesting and interested. Read more, do more, connect more and ask more questions. That’s a good way to start. 🙂

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Your pregnancy doesn’t just affect you. Because he’s the father, he’s affected, too. He wanted to be involved and you shut him out. A pregnancy is a big deal for a guy, too, in many, many cases. Probably most cases. That’s why he acted the way he did. I hope that helps explain things. Let me know if you have any other questions.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You sound very anxious and that means you’re not taking care of yourself. 🙄 You have to balance taking care of yourself with finding the right time to ask her out. If you’re living in anxiety, then you should just move on. [b]Go back and re-read all the advice I’ve give you — not just about talking to her[/b]. I feel like you want a magic wand to make things different, and this isn’t magic. It’s about people and relationships. 😉 Focus on the balance and like I said, if you’re still anxious, give yourself a time out from talking to her for a year, and then go back and see where you both are.

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