[Anonymous]

Chlamydia is treatable. Take the antibiotic and you’ll be fine. Just have protected sex from now on.

[Anonymous]

NO!
You have to use condoms, or in a matter of time you will contract this disease again. 1 in 4 people have Chlamidya. You can have a normal sex life but you NEED to get treated by a doctor first (and wait a week until the antibiotics have worked). After that you will be free from spreading it to others but how are you sure you won’t catch it again from the next person you have sex with? If not something worse like HIV or AIDS?
Also, you can get Pelvic Inflammatory disease from Chlamydia. This can make you sterile for life and you will never be able to have children.
So whether you hate condoms or not, they can save your life and others.
Don’t be stupid with your sex partners.

[Anonymous]

Sorry to change the subject but I need help with something. So my brother give this guy my number because i told him he was hot. And the guy text me later that night but i didn’t check my phone until later the next day. I texted him back but since then i haven’t heard from him and he texted me first. Should i text him again or he’s not worth it???
-Thanks

[Anonymous]

Are you serious? This advice is sounding a little too Angelina Jolie for our tastes! While you probably aren’t the make it or break it of a relationship that’s obviously already on the rocks, have some self respect and don’t chase after attached guys, no matter how much you like them or how much you think they’re unhappy in their current situation! At best, you end up getting the guy when he’s available to you and you can look yourself in the eye in the morning. At worst, you’ll avoid hitching your wagon to a guy who is co-dependent, doesn’t respect his supposed loved ones, and isn’t a man of his word.

Our advice? Let him know you like him, but you aren’t interested in dating a guy who is already attached. End of story. Don’t explain, don’t tell him to break up with his girl, don’t tell him to call you, and don’t flirt with him.

If he is a good guy worth having, and if he really wants you with good intentions, he’ll split from his current relationship and pursue you on the up and up. I would keep him at arms length for at least a few months. You don’t need to be rebound girl or one-night-stand girl.

If all of this means you lose him. Well, consider yourself lucky for having avoided the pain and heartbreak of being in the same position his current girlfriend is in today, and be happy that you can respect yourself for not being the pointless cause of someone else’s hurt.

The Buzz

[Anonymous]

Shy guy, send her a message at least if she shoots you down its not to your face, and you have a relatively low chance of running into her on a daily basis right now. SO GO FOR IT!!!!!!! My hubby is the shy quiet type and I am the opposite, if I wouldn’t have put SIGNS up saying I was interested and knew he was too, it would have been a complete miss.

[Anonymous]

Thanks, this really helped put it into perspective. I’ll let you know if it works out. :/

[Anonymous]

🙂 @OP: hey, thanks. Nice topic, i have been searching these info for ages.

[Anonymous]

By not having heavy discussions you mean I shouldn’t ask her what her “I feel the same way about you” meant? I am curious as to only a week later … silence.

I mentioned in my very first post that the weekend I really wanted to get to know her things didn’t quite work out. I did a little research about whether it’s only me who have ever experienced such a shock from champagne. I found an article scientifically stating that champagne can cause you to get tipsy quickly especially if you haven’t had anything substantial to eat. Do you think I can send it to her so that she can see I wasn’t joking when I said my world was spinning?

As I said in my previous post it’s another two weeks before I have an opportunity of seeing her again and given that’s been a while since I’ve heard from her. How long should I wait to contact her again, using any method possible and, if you think the date and sport is a good idea, how long should I wait before bringing it up?

[Anonymous]

Hi April,

I’ve had a lot of time with myself and I’ve finally settled and I’ve chose to continue with her.

While this time, she’s afraid that we might face problems in the future regarding this issue and that we might end breaking up. She says that she feels horrible about what she did and the things she made me go through and that she is not comfortable continuing the relationship.

She says that she still loves me and wants to get back with me but she always remembers what she did and her concerns regarding our future.

I’m talking to her most of the time and trying to relax her and to convince her that it was a mistake and I forgave her and she shouldn’t worry about it as I’ve finally forgave her and do not care about it.

What’s best to do? is it better to continue talking to her and calm her down and tell her that everything will be fine, or just give her some alone time to think about it herself? or what?

I really love her and think that we’re right for each other, What is the best thing to do here April?

Thanks I really appreciate it.

[Anonymous]

It’s odd how after doing something and a little times goes by you realise you could’ve given it a bit more thought … case and point, the Valentine’s text and I still wonder if this is where she’d wanted something else. She had a friend’s 21st celebrations to go to the evening of the ball.

It’s been three weeks since we said we liked each other and I genuinely thought as we won’t be seeing each other a lot I should build on our friendship in the way that got us to where we were in the first place i.e. emailing but now that I have her number I can say hi and ask how she is in a text and once in a blue moon give her a call. Then ask her out when she comes home for the holidays in a month or so. What would you suggest to be a good opportunity to interact in this month? How do I call after basically not hearing from her in the two weeks after the Valentine’s debacle? I did hear her university is having a test series and that she has been extremely busy after starting with clinical training.

She studies about 100 miles from me and I thought about reasons to go through. There was a sporting event this past weekend so I tried calling to ask if would like to join me, but couldn’t reach her but as the closing time to buy tickets drew near I texted asking that when she gets a bit of time she can text me back or given me a call. She replied that she was already going with friends. That being said I mentioned we haven’t added each other on Facebook but during the past week I decided to do so. Appearing comfortable enough to ask her to a wedding but apparently not enough so to add her, could have given her the idea that I just used her as a date but just after I logged off, the email came through that she’d accepted. So I’d say she not totally ignoring me.

Anyway in two weeks time another game of the sport played this past weekend, is coming up and two friends and I, they’re actually middle-aged men I play squash with, wanted to go through. Even though I’m desperate to see her again, what would your take be on the appropriateness of asking her to join me if they’ll also be there? Or does this mean, that if she says yes, I have to go through earlier, take her on an afternoon date and then along with her meet them in the stadium.

[Anonymous]

Dear April, I went to the bowling alley with them which was so stupid, but I wanted to show my ex that I was over it well as soon as I got there he was saying rude things like oh that is conner’s favorite color of panties cause they were showing a little also he kept trying to outdo conner and he was just being really rude. Also he told me and conner to be good since conner was taking me home well anyways while he was taking me home my ex called him and was telling conner how that him and that girl were making out and all and when conner hung up he told me my ex said that I had a big mouth and that he could hear me talking, and then conner told me about how my ex told him that he didn’t like me at all , and that my ex called me a whore. I really couldn’t believe it does my ex really mean all these things or is he just saying it to be mean? but your advice was really good I am done with this guy and I know I can do better! Thanks April!

[Anonymous]

I should mention that I asked him today why he kissed me last night on the dancefloor, and he said it was because I made him horny (due to the grinding), and that he was drunk and should have had better judgement. Is he trying to be a jerk? I know he would have kissed me even if he was sober. He kissed me yesterday before the dinner theatre when I first saw him, and again this morning before leaving. I don’t get it!

[Anonymous]

Well, since sunday, we started hanging out again. We have decided to remain friends, but we had sex a few times this week. He still acted like we were dating cause he was very clingy and kissed me a lot. However, yesterday, we met to go out to a dinner theatre together and he changed his behaviour once again. That’s when he told me that he didn’t want to have sex with me anymore and just wanted to be friends. I still have feelings for him so it hurt. Anyway, we went out to the bars after the dinner, with some friends. We danced all night, and while dancing, he kept pulling me towards him to grind. Eventually, by the end of the night, he kissed me. When this happened, I looked at him weird as it felt like he was leading me on. He apologized, but then we kissed again for the remainder of the song. He eventually walked me home and decided to stay over for the night. He said he didn’t want to have sex and wanted to sleep. He said he associates emotions with sex and that is the reason he doesn’t want to do it anymore. This morning, he got up and put his clothes on. Just before leaving, he cuddled with me for a few minutes before kissing me and leaving for the day. We got into another argument later because he didn’t want to spend time with me (I was sick and I asked him to hang with me and he said he didn’t want to cancel his plans). I feel as if he owes me cause I have cancelled my plans to be there for him a couple weeks ago, and I feel like he’s being inconsiderate when I need him. I also feel like he’s giving me mixed signals all the time. One day I feel like he likes me, and other days, it feels like he doesn’t. I’ve been feeling like he’s pulling away lately, but when I distance myself from him, he gets closer to me. He told me today he wanted some space. I’m sick and tired of being treated like crap. He’s there for me only when it’s convenient for him. I find him to be very selfish and I’m seriously starting to think that he’s an emotional abuser. What do you think?

[Anonymous]

Also April this guy my boyfriend gave my number too just told me that him and my ex were talking about me and that he asked to see what i looked like and my ex showed him my Facebook pictures and also my ex told him that he should invite me to go bowling with them tomorrow.

my ex is going to be there with another girl. So what I don’t understand is why my ex would want me to be there too.It’s only been a month since we broke up and we haven’t talked for a month and then all this comes up.What I don’t understand is if my ex boyfriend had moved on why would he want me to be there at all?I know he isn’t being nice and hooking me up because my ex isn’t the nicest person! So please help me understand this!

[Anonymous]

Many thanks April for your advice. I have spoken to him on many occassions about her behaviour and how I just dont understand why he sees nothing wrong in what she does. I do love him very much but feel so down about the situation. I will try harder I just hope he sees one day that all i want is an adult relationship where I am considered in his world. Thank you again.

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