[Anonymous]

Thanks April. Everything she has told me about her ex, she despises him and doesn’t want anything to do with him.

I didn’t want to pressure her today or tonight, so i sent her a message saying that i hope she had a good day and to call me if/when she would like to talk to me. No response – I havent heard from her all day. I know she would have read what I sent her – and to get no response from her is making my mind spin. It would be easier to hear that she is not interested, but cause she hasnt said that. makes me think that she is interested, but just needs some time to herself.

So I ask:
Does she like me, and want time to herself?
How long is a good time to leave it before contacting her or should i wait until she contacts me?

Its a tough situation to be in. And I just want to do the right thing by her.

[Anonymous]

No. Apart from his drug dealing, 🙄 he has been unfaithful to you multiple times — in your face no less — and he calls you abusive names. 😥 You took him back once or twice, so he sees no reason to change his ways. He clearly does not respect you. When he does not have you, he wants you. When he has you, he disrespects you with another woman. Just because he decides ‘x’, does not mean you have to respond ‘x’. Otherwise you are being blown around with whatever his whim of the moment is (or woman-of-the-moment). Do you want to invite that into your life again and again? While the history you two shared may have been important at some point in the past, it is the future we’re talking about here. It appears a future with him would be nothing but chaos. 😮 And you have a child’s well-being to consider. You are the role model for that child. A role model takes care of herself and does not invite chaos and drama into her life. I don’t recommend that you continue with this relationship. You broke off the engagement once. I think you know the answer to your own question. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Hi. An update on my situation.

Tonight, I messaged her saying ‘hope your having a good night’.

She replied, ‘day was shit, having ex problems again and wishes she didn’t have to live here (in the town she works away in) and sorry but dont feel like talking.’

I said ‘sorry to hear about her day, i am here for you if you wanna chat anytime’

to be honest, im not sure what to do.

considering what has gone on up until now, i need some assistance with this one.

[Anonymous]

I believe that she is most definitely interested in you. The fact that she booked a holiday says it all. I am not sure how interested she is though… I thnk that the holiday will be her way of seeing how you two relate outside of the norm and whether or not things should get serious.

[Anonymous]

Yea ur both right I know that…I really would just wanna have sex but then I know I would be hurting his girl..I’m dating so finding another guy isn’t a problem so I’m just goin to focus on that and stop talkin to this guy at all for a while then maybe he will stop tryin to get in my pants…
Thanks…

[Anonymous]

So I have bigger issue in this problem now…I found out that I am pregnant and his first words out his mouth were abortion…I never expected him to react this way just because how great we were since November…he also made statements before I found out that I was pregnant that he does not believe in abortions… he claims it’s because he wants to do things right with me…marriage than children… we decided to take a break and work on each other but I don’t know if I want to be with someone who has ignored my calls/ texts,said some real hurtful things and has not kept his word with me for the past week…also who is manipulating me into doing something that I am not 100% about..I understand he has a lot on his plate but I never expected him to react this way…he also had the audacity to ask me if I got pregnant on purpose…I am highly upset…but I still love him so much..maybe I should just cut him out my life completely…any suggestion?

[Anonymous]

That helps I know he wants children and I want more chidren as well…so I guess I need to ask the question..
Thanks..

[Anonymous]

I posted a few days ago about my gf well today I texted and asked her if we could be hookup buddies but not date and she said no and then she said she wanted a boyfriend not a sex buddy and she said go find another girl to be your sex buddy then I said but your better because you know how to use your tongue and I told her I would make being sex buddies worth her while she said Idk what I ever saw in you. and then broke up with me.But I keep messing up and I regret it all so much now that she is gone.When i had her all I wanted was a slutty girl now that she has left for good I wish I had her back. what should I do?

[Anonymous]

The title is “a stressed man” because I am talking about my ex boyfriend..who is stressed. I’m a woman. haha

[Anonymous]

Dear April I have a similar question to this one. My boyfriend also talks to my friends when he is mad at me and will ignore me. He is also controlling.Like right now he is mad at me . and he will talk to my friends and flirt with my friends and ignore me. Like last week at school he walked right by me and told my friend hey with me standing right there. and he will tell my friends stuff that that he knows will hurt me to hear.So do guys like this do that as a form of control to hurt their girlfriends.To make them mad?

[Anonymous]

You are rigth theres lot to think about now. I must say im thankful for your advice im sure that it will help me greatly. But you probably know your answer would open more questions. Most of these are things that i think i can overcome myself but i must ask your advise for this.
i did mention that im also shy so i would like to know is there any help for that you dont feal that you are going to almost feint when you talk to some one you are attracted to. I know this is rely nothing to worry about there something also left for me to figure for my self. But cause i noticed that you are very smart on things like this i would hope if you had any tips things that might help you could share them anyways it not like i can change everything of my self in one night.
Cause any help will probably help me overcome the barrier that i have build when talking to some one im attracted. And prevent me from over thinking things like usually do.
Other thing i rely rely need to know is how do you tell is some one all ready dating? And is completely rude to ask them if you are not sure?

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

April,
o.k I admit that it was completely wrong of me to make the fake profile and do what I did the way I did it. I should have confronted and asked my G.F about the dating profile, obviously now (For the record the break up didn’t happen until after I made the fake profile) I was not trying to take it out on the daughter at the time I was trying to get back at the daughter for what I felt was undermining her mother and my relationship in a joking way as to when I sent the date request to her on the website I sent things such as ” It is so great that I found the women I have already been seeing on here that is just great lol!” as immature as that sounds now I know I am an idiot. Her mother and I are both busy people and the daughter is newly single so she had been trying to get her mother to go do things that single girls in there twenties do when her mother and I were supposed to do things together on other occasions and I feel like it was for her own selfish reasons, I know I was frustrated by it and should have talked to my G.F about it now.
Back to the original post. Now that I have helped mess this up, What steps do you feel I should take to win her back ? I have called and apologized to both the daughter and her mother. However now she has said that she is just too busy to have a serious commited relationship but we can still do things together ? which sounds to me as code for we can still hook up until I find someone else to take your place ? In which I told her that I wanted to work on us and I am going to spend my time and money on someone who I can be in a relationship with ( I already lived my twenties once not raising kids like her) And normally I would just run from a situation like this but she is a good woman and I feel if I can win her back we could could have a good healthy relationship ?

[Anonymous]

That must have been embarrassing. 😳 I think that was pretty rude of her to say. 🙄 Maybe you should re-evaluate your relationship. 💡 Is it about mutual love and respect or is it about what you can give her? 😕

[Anonymous]

Thanx April, I get what your saying. Her daughter is 23 by the way. I guess I didn’t really feel like posting a username as ****isanass in a fake profile was as bad as her daughter trying to undermind our relationship by posting her mothers profile on a dating website. I do agree that it was immature but if thats a deal breaker then I think the emotional stability of her and her daughter is too fragile for me to handle anyways ???

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