[Aida Omar]

Introverts are afraid of heavy words like direct “dating.” They want a “chill” environment. Don’t take her on a formal “date,” but involve her in an activity where it’s just the two of you no labels, just good vibes.
And April is absolutely right that you’re both 19. Some people are ready to date at that age, some aren’t. If she’s not ready, you’re better off finding a girl who wants a relationship just like you.

[Aida Omar]

Get rid of the fear that ‘if you sleep together, the relationship won’t work.’ If you were great in bed, he will definitely come back. Being sexy doesn’t mean you’ve become ‘cheap’, it means you’ve shown him the trailer of how much of a hit the movie is going to be. Now let him yearn for the whole movie.
Listen, don’t let him dominate you. You’re a ‘prize’, not him. Let him work hard to get you.
I like AskApril’s expert advice that if he texts after 4 days, it means he’s still interested. Consider it ‘normal’ and don’t get your hopes up. Just because you’re not working and he’s busy, don’t focus all your attention on him. Focus on your life and your happiness.

[Aida Omar]

Listen, it’s been all “hands on the shoulder” and “smiles” since 2014? This professor is playing it safe because you’ve been his student. Now that you’re graduating, let go of the “student-teacher” veil.
The next time he smiles at you in the hallway, don’t just smile back. Stop and say, “I’m finally graduating in February, so you won’t have to worry about ‘professor code’ anymore. Let’s go for coffee.” If he says yes to coffee or a date, fine, don’t waste your youth on such “hallway crushes.”

[Aida Omar]

He comes back because you left the door open for him. He wants “convenience”, not “commitment”. He has fun with you and then hides behind his mother’s lap. As long as you keep it a “secret”, she will never respect you.
Right now, you are the “victim”, but it is time for you to take the power into your own hands. Block him and put your self-respect first. 8 months is a long time to be stuck in a toxic cycle.
I like AskApril’s expert advice that, since you are both seeing new people, there is no one to talk to your ex-boyfriend about now. As long as you are in contact, you will not be able to get out of this quagmire.
Take control of your life. If he calls, politely tell him that you have moved on and can no longer talk, and then hang up.

[Aida Omar]

When a man knows that a girl is not going anywhere, his “hunting instinct” is gone. Not replying to her is his real answer. He is at peace because he knows that you are sitting at home mourning her.
Don’t send him any messages. Don’t ask questions like “Will we meet again?” When you disappear and seem to be enjoying your life, then he will feel the real “Fear of Loss”.

[Aida Omar]

It’s good to be shy, but now is the time to show a little “Power”. When he looks nervous or starts to walk past with his head bowed, catch his eye. A look that tells him you know what’s going on in his heart. Make him feel like you’re “enjoying” his nervousness. I like Ask April’s simple, cautious expert advice: keep flirting so he keeps getting the green light, but keep busy with your own life so you don’t seem “desperate”. They believe that if he gets the courage, he’ll ask himself.

[Aida Omar]

You’re not asking for friendship, you’re asking for “free therapy” and “attention” to kill time until you find someone new. This is a very selfish approach. Where’s the self-respect? Are you someone’s “waiting room”?
His friendship is an addiction to you that’s holding you back. Bury this friendship and be the main character in your life, not someone’s sidekick. Ask April gave exactly the right advice that if you were truly friends, you would be happy for his happiness. Your ”new girlfriend,” that’s not friendship.
Let go of the old memories, stop pretending to be friends, and be truly single and find a new partner.

[Aida Omar]

Wow, April, I admire your expert advice
You should forget about it. Dating is a numbers game. This guy didn’t show any interest, whether he was busy at work or had found someone else. The point is, you two have never met, so there’s no need to mess with his mind so much.
I think your self-respect is very important, so
You shouldn’t waste time on guys who ghosting you.

[Aida Omar]

I agree with Ask April that you shouldn’t give this bad friend so much importance. If the bond between you and your boyfriend is strong, no third party can break it. Just focus on your relationship.
You said that you guys only meet for 15 minutes, which is very little. If you both really like each other, then spend more time outside of work so that no third party can interfere.

[Aida Omar]

AskApril, I liked your advice that instead of blaming both of you, you talked about building bridges, which is a very sensible approach.
The advice you gave about “no labeling” is really top-notch because naming always makes things worse.
I think Love isn’t a button you can just toggle on and off in the middle of a fight. I’d tell him to stand his ground; feeling hurt isn’t a manipulation, it’s just being human.

[Aida Omar]

This girl still hasn’t gotten over her ex’s wounds. She’s dumping the trauma on you. A girl who keeps talking about the past and flirting with other guys often wants attention, but no commitment. So, my dear, stop chasing her.
I think that girl is playing games so that you will chase her.
You should cool off a bit. When you reduce the attention, she’ll understand that you’re not a part-time fan.

[Aida Omar]

First of all, AskApril, thank you very much for listening to me with compassion. Seeing your answer encouraged me that there is someone who is not judging me.
My wounds are healing, but I’m still mentally shocked. I can’t sleep. I feel very lonely and unfortunate. I have not spoken to anyone about this. In my culture and circle, this is a very difficult topic to bring up, and I am terrified of being judged or misunderstood.
That’s why I haven’t reported it yet.
April, I haven’t left the house for a long time, and I haven’t seen him, but he’s messaging me now and apologizing. I blocked him.
I will never forgive him. I feel unsafe and deeply hurt by his actions.
He did a lot of wrong to me, broke my trust, and I hate him so much.

[Aida Omar]

AskApril is right about that, you two aren’t bad, you just have different paths. She wants adventure, and you want peace.
If you’d like to move on, please keep “no contact”. Otherwise, these mixed signals will be frustrating.
Let her have her adventure, and you raise your standards. By the time she misses you in the heat of Thailand, you’ll be with a girl who will choose to be with you, not run away.
She is wearing a ring and says, “Miss you.” I think it is just an emotional hook so that you don’t go to anyone else.

[Aida Omar]

That guy is an “emotional vampire” who is drinking your energy. Block him and wear your sexiest dress and enjoy the holiday. Let him think you have forgotten him because the most painful thing for a man is when he is ignored, and his ego is hurt.
AskApril was right that the guy is not serious about you; he is just passing the time. You should break up with him and focus on your own self-respect and flirt with other men so that you know your worth.

[Aida Omar]

Wao AskApril you are 100% right that a relationship doesn’t just happen on love; it requires shared goals and the courage to stand together through tough times. I like your advice that the woman should move on because the guy isn’t capable of commitment “for better or worse.
I think you should give him space.
Tell him that you are not a hospital where he can say thank you after getting his treatment. You are a “prize” that has to be won. Be a little “naughty”, enjoy your life, and show him how hot and happy you are without him.

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