[Eudeza]

Just follow what your heart truly wants, what you’re genuinely passionate about. Work feels much more fulfilling when you love what you do, not just because it pays well. Try not to overthink the negative possibilities right now. No matter what career you choose, it can lead to something good if you put in hard work, patience and dedication.

[Eudeza]

Maybe he’s gotten used to being childish because you allow it or it might be his way of being affectionate with you. You can help him gradually change and become more mature, just be patient because it won’t happen overnight. Start by guiding him little by little in situations where he can learn to act more maturely. If he act immature, don’t tolerate him, better to correct him on the spot so he might learn from it.

[Eudeza]

It’s difficult to confess your feelings to him now because both of you already have other partners. If you do, there will be people who will get hurt, people who love you both and have no idea that there is actually a deeper connection between you two beyond friendship.

It could also damage your friendship. If you confess and he is already happy and secure in his current relationship, things may become awkward between the two of you.

So expressing your feelings to him is quite risky. It might only work out if both of you eventually become single in the future.

Your current boyfriend would also be hurt because he has no idea that you have feelings for someone else. But this kind of confusion is normal at your age, so maybe it’s best to just enjoy what’s happening in your life for now and go with the flow.

[Eudeza]

In the first situation, I think she’s just using you as a rebound or a backup option in case things don’t work out with her boyfriend. She’s letting you get emotionally attached so she has someone to lean on whenever she has problems in her relationship. In this kind of setup you’re likely to get hurt and things will only become more complicated if you allow your feelings to grow deeper especially since she can’t fully choose you because she already has a partner.

In the second situation about your lesbian friend, she already clearly told you she’s not interested in men. She might just be affectionate because you’re close and she feels comfortable with you. Don’t break her trust or your friendship because that’s important. The fact that you confessed your feelings and she didn’t reciprocate is already a clear sign that she only sees you as a friend. Try not to overanalyze your closeness so you don’t end up confused or hurt.

[Eudeza]

First of all, don’t overthink or become paranoid especially since you said your friend can handle the situation. If your concern is the age gap, try not to dwell on it too much, age is not always a barrier if two people genuinely care for each other.

However, the situation of being a boss and an employee is more complicated. It could look unprofessional in the eyes of their coworkers especially since his ex is also part of the workplace and even in a leadership position.

It might be best for you to talk to your friend and ask her if she is prepared for any possible consequences that could come from her relationship with her boss.

For me, it’s also good to stay open-minded and supportive and to trust your friend while still being there for her if things become difficult.

[Eudeza]

He is avoiding you because he doesn’t like you. It’s obvious that it seems like he is just playing with you. It’s a waste of your time to deal with someone like that so it would be better if you completely stay away from him and forget about him especially since that’s what he is doing to you.
His mind is confused so his behavior toward you is also inconsistent. He knows that no matter what he does you will still be there for him, so you need to stop worrying about him.
What you should do is shift your attention to other things or other people so you can focus on yourself and not waste your time thinking about or chasing after him.

[Eudeza]

She’s older than you but why does it seem like she’s not acting mature? It looks like she wants two men in her life. She’s making you a side partner because she already has a committed boyfriend, yet she’s also hiding what’s going on between you two even though it’s obvious that it’s more than just friendship.
You already know that what you’re doing is wrong.
If you want her to focus on you, talk to her honestly. Tell her you’re willing to be her exclusive boyfriend and if she truly chooses you, she needs to leave her current boyfriend. If she can’t choose you then it’s better to stop what’s going on between you because nothing good will come out of it. It will only bring problems especially if her boyfriend finds out what’s happening between you two.

[Eudeza]

Yes, he already wants you to move on from him. He just doesn’t want to say it directly so you won’t get too hurt or offended but that’s basically what his email is trying to communicate.

Don’t focus on what he said about “not wanting anyone else to touch you but him”, that’s just him trying to soften things or make it sound like he still cares. In reality he also wants the relationship to fully stop and for everything between you to end.

It’s better for you to move on. Someone else will come along who will truly deserve you.

[Eudeza]

Obviously, he doesn’t like you but he can’t say it directly to you, so he still gives a bit of an excuse. But honestly from what I can see, you’re not his type of girl. That’s clear from what he said to you especially when he told you “good luck.”

He already has another girl he’s talking to and he really wants to stop your communication, even as friends.

Don’t ever force yourself into a situation like that. Value yourself as a woman and don’t lose your self-respect. Just move on from him. You will meet other people who are willing to give you their time and won’t lead you on at the beginning only to avoid you in the end.

[Eudeza]

Always remember that communication is the key. He won’t know what’s bothering you if you don’t tell him. If you don’t agree with what he wants, tell him directly and you have the right to refuse if you’re not comfortable with what he’s doing to you. If you feel disappointed about him watching porn talk to him so he understands how you feel. What’s bothering you won’t go away if you keep it to yourself.

[Member]

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