[Jake Julius]

He does love you, but it’s not enough for him to leave his current girlfriend. Because if he loved you more, he wouldn’t have left you for her in the first place.
Don’t overcomplicate it. If you want to get him back, you would need to become better than his current girlfriend in his eyes, that’s all it really comes down to.

[Jake Julius]

First of all, it’s wrong to blame the parents for the reason your relationship failed. At the end of the day, you are still the ones making the decisions.
Second, long-distance relationships are different from relationships where you live close to each other and can meet anytime as long as you both have time. In long-distance relationships, a lot of understanding and patience are needed.
Third, in a relationship, both partners need to be active for it to work. If you still want things to improve, always try to look at the bright side instead of focusing on the negatives. Try to stay calm and don’t be too controlled by your emotions. You can still fight for it, that is your choice, but if it really doesn’t work anymore, I hope you learned something from what happened to you.
And lastly, in the future, don’t keep your relationship a secret from both families.

[Jake Julius]

I think this was your first real love. A breakup is really hard, especially when you’ve grown so deeply attached. You need time to heal, and you don’t really have a choice but to move on in order to continue forward.
Experience is the best teacher, so you should learn from this. You can use what you’ve gone through for the rest of your life.
You need to face tomorrow and consider the people around you who can help you get back up and start again, especially yourself. Start a new chapter in your life. Don’t let yourself stay stuck in the same place.

[Jake Julius]

You need to change your approach, don’t just let yourself be someone who always follows her lead. You’re always there for her whenever she needs you, which is why you end up feeling used or taken advantage of.

Show her that she’s not the only girl in your life. Try flirting with other people too, just to gain more experience and not be so emotionally stuck on her.

Respect yourself first so that others will respect you too. Be confident and carry yourself like a man, that’s all it is. You don’t need to be a “bad boy,” but you also shouldn’t be too soft or easily controlled.

[Jake Julius]

Even if you bury those feelings, as long as you stay friends and still have a connection, it will be hard for you to move on from her. It’s also clear that the two of you aren’t really compatible.
You want her to acknowledge that she was wrong about certain things, but she doesn’t do that, and it leaves you feeling frustrated. Why not just find someone else who is more deserving of you—someone you’re more compatible with and can truly get along with?
Accept the fact that you two just aren’t a good match.

[Jake Julius]

I think he still does have feelings for you. And you’re also right that he might prefer for you to finish and settle your divorce first so that both of you can start fresh and you can focus more on him.

Honestly, that’s actually a good idea, starting again when both of you are already in a stable and clear situation. But since there’s still no certainty, don’t close your heart completely to other possibilities. Just continue your connection with him for now.

[Jake Julius]

First of all, you entered that situation because you were financially struggling. The problem now is that you’ve developed feelings for him, but he doesn’t seem to be on the same page. And because of that, you feel like you’re just being treated like a helper or maid.
The simple solution is to focus on finding a stable job and stop relying on the financial support you’re getting from him.

[Jake Julius]

He’s not ready to be in a serious relationship, that’s basically it. So it might really be better if you both just break up and cut off communication for now so you can both have space to think, especially him.

You also need to protect your own emotions. Don’t allow yourself to keep getting hurt repeatedly. If the relationship is no longer healthy, it’s better to move on and find someone else, someone who truly deserves your love and will appreciate you more.

[Jake Julius]

don’t think race is really a problem when it comes to having a good relationship. It probably just depends on how two people connect, whether they’re Asian, Russian, or American. I don’t see anything wrong with being an American woman. Everyone simply has their own culture.

Maybe the men you’re talking about are just attracted to other races, or they want to experience being with someone from a different background and see if they connect. What really matters is that you’re a good and genuine person.

[Jake Julius]

I can’t really tell what exactly happened between you two after that conversation, especially if he suddenly became cold. But in my opinion, that conversation alone wasn’t enough for him to become genuinely interested in you. Because if he really liked you, that would’ve been the perfect moment for him to ask you out or make a move. But he still didn’t do it.

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