[Ninotchschika]

You already know where your weakness is, so that’s what you should work on improving. If you lack self-confidence, focus on that and try to avoid overthinking—it doesn’t really help.

Just go with the flow, whatever the outcome may be, whether good or bad, that’s part of it. You just need to accept that.

[Ninotchschika]

I think he likes you. You’re also right that if you want a clear answer, you should ask him.
But before you do that, ask yourself first if you’re ready to risk your friendship. Are you prepared for things to possibly feel awkward between you afterward?

[Ninotchschika]

In my opinion, your girlfriend is no longer interested in you. You are just doing everything you can to get her attention, whether through positive or negative approaches, meaning you are becoming attention-seeking.
It would be better for you to leave the place you are both living in for your own peace of mind, even if you are not financially ready to move out yet. Try to find a friend or someone you know who you can ask for help or stay with temporarily.

[Ninotchschika]

It’s clear that there’s nothing official between you. This guy is likely just playing around and keeping his options open—meaning he’s open to other girls too.
If someone comes along, he’ll probably consider them as well. Don’t waste too much of your time on him, and try talking to other people instead. You might find someone who is more serious and willing to build a real relationship with you.

[Ninotchschika]

Making another mistake because of a mistake is not a good idea—it only makes the situation worse. It would be better for you to break up because you’re just deceiving each other at this point.

[Ninotchschika]

Yes, you’re right. A desperate person often doesn’t think clearly anymore—they’ll just act on what they believe is right at the moment, even if it’s actually wrong.

[Ninotchschika]

Just give him space so he can think things through. Based on his behavior, he seems genuinely confused about what he wants.

It’s better not to chase him for now. No matter how much you want to fix the relationship, if he’s the one who doesn’t want it or isn’t sure, there’s nothing you can really do to change that.

[Ninotchschika]

It’s simple—if she’s not comfortable with that, it’s better for you to avoid doing it. You said you love your girlfriend, so protect her emotions. That’s all it is. Don’t make it a big deal—it’s that simple. Just cook for your girlfriend instead, and spend your late nights talking or staying up with her instead.

[Ninotchschika]

That’s the problem—you’re still living with your parents, so you can’t just ignore what they’re saying. Well, for me, it’s okay to keep fighting for your relationship until you become independent enough to make your own decisions. If by that time you’re still together and your relationship is still okay, then that says something.

Regarding your arguments, that’s normal. Just try to work on avoiding saying hurtful things when you’re angry. Always think first about what you’re about to say before you let it out.

[Ninotchschika]

It’s not a good idea for you to initiate everything between the two of you—just wait for him to take the lead sometimes. Long-distance relationships are difficult, so don’t rush things or move too fast.
That might also be what he’s thinking, which is why he’s not pushing things too strongly right now, even if the idea is already there in his mind. For now, just wait for him. You can give small signals to show your interest, but don’t be the one to directly initiate or say everything.

[Ninotchschika]

He’s not even being nice to you anymore, yet you’re still chasing him. You’re just making your life more complicated.
It would be better to simplify things, find someone else who is more deserving and truly right for you, someone who doesn’t bring constant problems into your life.
You should know your worth, and you deserve someone who will genuinely value and appreciate you.

[Ninotchschika]

I think she is also interested in you, I just don’t know how deep it is since she is investing time hanging out with you.
Now, if you really like her, ask her out on a date and show her that you are interested in her. Whatever happens, at least you tried and you won’t have any regrets. Age is not really a problem in a relationship, it just depends on how both of you will adjust to each other.

[Ninotchschika]

It’s clear that he is interested in you. For him to spend that much time talking to someone he only met online and hasn’t even met in person yet suggests that he is definitely interested.
But that doesn’t necessarily mean he already wants you as a committed partner. It’s also possible that he is talking to other people and that you are just one of his options, that’s normal, especially since you’re not officially together yet.
You can also do the same if you want. Just continue your connection with him, but stay open to others as well. If you get the chance to go on dates with other people, don’t close yourself off completely.

[Ninotchschika]

It means your feelings for him are getting deeper because you’re starting to feel hurt.
The problem is that it was already clear between the two of you that you are just friends. Also, it may not have been the best idea to confront him, especially since you already told him from the beginning that you were okay with him seeing other people and that you still wanted to stay friends.
At the end of the day, it’s your choice whether to continue or to step away. But if you keep confronting him, he might lose interest in you because it could feel like you’re crossing boundaries that were already set.

[Ninotchschika]

It’s clear that you’ve been friend-zoned. You can still try to pursue her and ask her out on dates, but the issue is that you’re currently short on money.
At the end of the day, it’s your choice. Just because you’re in the friend zone doesn’t mean you have to stop trying, you just need to level up the connection and shift her perception of you into something more romantic.

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