[Joshua]

First of all, it’s not really true that when you get married, you are automatically “marrying” your partner’s parents and entire family. At the end of the day, the decisions still belong to the two of you, since you are the ones building a life together. Your families are simply part of your lives, not the ones who control your relationship.
Second, it’s up to you whether you can accept the culture they are used to. If you truly can’t accept it, then it may be better to break up. You probably already knew this early on, but you still chose to continue because you really liked her. Now that things are getting difficult, you’re starting to think about giving up.
In the end, you are still the only one who truly knows whether you want to continue or not.

[Joshua]

He just wants something playful, but he doesn’t want commitment. He doesn’t want a serious relationship—this guy is just playing around, and if he ever gets the chance to use you, he will likely take it. It’s right that you don’t develop feelings for him.

[Joshua]

When a man is serious about a woman and sees her as a long-term partner, he feels proud to meet her family and friends. I don’t think your boyfriend is that serious about you. He doesn’t see you as a long-term relationship for him—at least, that’s how it looks. For me, that’s one sign.
Observe his behavior closely, and if nothing changes, you can decide to look for another man who is more serious and truly deserves you.

[Joshua]

First of all, it’s clear that he didn’t choose you and instead followed what his parents wanted. Don’t fool yourself into thinking it was only his parents’ decision—because in the end, it was still his choice. That may hurt and be disappointing, but you need to move on.
Second, why did you have sex with your roommate when you knew it was risky? You’re not a child anymore, and I believe you already know what is right and wrong. Every choice you make in life is yours, so if you want to break up with your roommate, you can do it. Just tell him politely that you are no longer interested in continuing the relationship. Talk to him properly—that’s all it takes. It’s that simple.
But you are still convincing yourself that it’s difficult and that you can’t get out of the situation. The truth is, you are the one holding yourself back because of your choices, not because the situation is uncontrollable.

[Joshua]

At his age 29, many men are already ready for a serious relationship, but he’s still living in his mother’s basement and doesn’t seem fully ready. Also, up until now, he hasn’t introduced you to his parents or even to his friends, since he doesn’t invite you to their events or parties.

My advice is, you’re only 21, enjoy your life. If he’s not ready and isn’t clear about what you really are, it’s better to keep dating other people, especially since others are asking you out.

You can continue your connection with him for now, and if he eventually becomes ready and you haven’t met anyone else, maybe you two are meant to be. But if you do meet someone else while he’s still not ready, then let him go and don’t waste your time.

[Joshua]

I can somehow understand your boyfriend’s situation. He already lost his rights to his two children before, and that must have been very painful for him. It’s possible that’s why he’s being careful now and seems to be keeping your relationship low-key, he may be afraid that his ex could do something that might affect his time with his daughter.

He’s also been clear that his child is his priority, so it’s something you should expect, that he will naturally give more time and attention to his daughter than to you.

If you truly love him and don’t want to lose him, then you’ll need to be patient and try to understand where he’s coming from. But if you feel like you can’t handle the situation anymore, you also have the choice to walk away.

[Member]

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