[Isabel]

Years have already passed, so find a way to move on—like going on dates with other people again, keeping yourself busy, and spending time having fun with your friends, etc. Don’t think about the gifts anymore; that was a long time ago.

[Isabel]

First of all, you said you had a part in why he left the house because you chose your family over him and you also said hurtful things to him. In his point of view, he may feel that he didn’t cheat because you two had already broken up in a way, and it’s normal for someone in that situation to try to move on and explore a relationship with someone else.
If you want him back, try to win him back. He has also promised not to do it again and said he wants to slowly work on fixing your relationship. You both have a child together, so just think about what would be best for your child in the long run.

[Isabel]

Nothing happened because you’re just making the situation too complicated, when it’s actually very simple. If you like her, you should have just asked her out.

It’s normal for hairdressers to talk to their clients. She may have liked you and was just waiting for you to be the one to initiate and ask her out on a date, but instead you kept overthinking everything and didn’t do anything.

[Isabel]

It’s normal for people to suddenly change their minds. Maybe she started dating someone else and liked that person more, which is why she suddenly lost interest in you. That’s just how dating can be sometimes.
If you really want her, then take the risk and fight for her, no matter what the outcome is. At least you can say you tried and fought for her.

[Isabel]

You’re right not to start the conversation anymore, and you already know he’s not interested in upgrading your status. Think carefully about whether you should still stay in a relationship where you’re only being called a sometime girlfriend.

[Isabel]

That’s really a problem because it can come across as if you’re not attracted to her. I mean, you’re a man and yet you seemed to struggle to have sex with her. That can really hurt a woman’s self-confidence—it might make her feel like she can’t even face you anymore.

[Isabel]

He should really be helping you with expenses, he’s a grown man after all, not someone who just adds more to your worries. In that kind of situation, it doesn’t seem like a good idea to think of him as someone you can build a future with. Instead of your resources going to your children, they’re going to him, and he even comes across as lazy and irresponsible.

[Isabel]

Why are you still wasting your time on that? You’re just draining your energy over it. Just focus on yourself if you don’t really care about your ex anymore. It’s just a waste of time.

[Isabel]

Just because you love each other doesn’t mean you’re already compatible. You both should have learned from what happened in the past so the same problems won’t keep repeating.
If you can’t change or grow from those issues, then don’t force it anymore. It might be better to move on and find someone you’re more compatible with.

[Isabel]

Well, nothing is certain in this world. He has done it before and even lied about it, so it’s not impossible that he could do it again. Just be careful and don’t trust too easily so that in the end, you don’t get hurt too badly.

[Member]

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