[Zennon]

Maybe what he’s saying is true, because what he went through—losing his partner and their child—is not something small. It could have caused him deep trauma that he still hasn’t fully overcome. For now, it might be better to try to understand him.

[Zennon]

So you still haven’t met in person yet, so I don’t think it’s a big deal if she hasn’t updated her FB relationship status since you haven’t even gone on a real date together.
Just take things slowly and don’t take things too seriously right now. Plan your first meeting properly first, then see if the relationship really works. Don’t rush your decisions.

[Zennon]

If you’re not happy with what’s happening, maybe you shouldn’t continue it anymore because when things are forced, the outcome often isn’t good.
Time is important in a relationship, and it’s understandable if he is busy with work, but he still needs to make time for you because you are in a relationship.
As for his family, even if they don’t like you, that’s something you and your boyfriend should talk about. If he is willing to stand up for you, then there shouldn’t be anything to worry about.

[Zennon]

Honestly, I don’t have a good feeling about this. It looks like your wife is drifting away from you—that’s what I see. If I were you, I would talk to her because there’s nothing else you can really do.

Tell her that you are not comfortable with what she is doing for work, and that you want to set boundaries or maybe even have her stop it altogether. After all, she has already had the experience, so maybe that’s enough.

And if she doesn’t choose you, then you need to move on.

[Zennon]

I like your idea of telling her right away that you like her and that you’re just there to support her through what she’s going through. That’s a good idea so you can comfort her more.

Whatever the outcome may be, you won’t have any regrets because you tried. Nothing will happen if you just wait, and she might even think that you’ve lost interest in her.

[Zennon]

That’s really awful that he left you at the hotel and made you go home alone. He’s so immature. If I were you, I would just move on and not contact him unless he apologizes to you. You don’t deserve to be treated the way he treated you.
After what he did, really think carefully about whether you should still take him back despite that. Honestly, he seems childish. You should find someone more mature—he’s too shallow.

[Zennon]

Just relax, it’s normal if you haven’t kissed a guy yet. Also, you don’t really need to say that you haven’t had your first kiss. It’s not that important. Just let the guy take the lead. Trust me, that’s his job. It’s not a big deal.

[Zennon]

What you should do depends on what you want to happen. If you want to fix your relationship, you need to talk about the problem you are facing right now. Have a proper, calm, and respectful conversation first.

If there are mistakes, admit them and make sure they won’t happen again. You need to learn from whatever mistakes were made that led to this situation, especially since you have already been together for 3 years.

Don’t worry, it’s normal for relationships to go through problems. What matters is how you handle the situation so you can resolve it quickly.

[Zennon]

So you never met in person and you didn’t actually date, right?
Maybe he’s not as affected by what you did as you think. Why focus so much on him? In online dating, men usually talk to a lot of people, and maybe he’s just being nice to everyone he talks to. Don’t read too much into it.
Try dating other people instead. Don’t stress yourself over that guy when you haven’t even met him in person yet. It’s already becoming a problem when there isn’t even a real relationship in the first place.

[Zennon]

I thought you were stepping back because you felt guilty, but in the end you still want to get him back. You’re kind of flirty too, huh.

Imagine, you’ve been married for 10 years and you’re flirting with another man, and now you’re the one chasing him. Your husband is really pitiful—he has no idea that he’s being cheated on by his flirtatious wife. You didn’t even feel any guilt about what you were doing. Aren’t you afraid that karma might come back to you for this?

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