It sounds like you’d like to give this guy another shot at dating you. I don’t know if he’s going to change or not, but I do know that you can!
Just like he’s putting all his attention on you, and that’s bothering you, [i]you’re[/i] also putting all your attention on him, and that’s bothering you, too! If you aren’t just dating this one guy, and in fact, have other men with whom you’re dating and playing the field, then maybe this guy won’t seem like he’s so intense. Sometimes people bother us the most when we don’t have other things going on in our own lives. So if you play the numbers game in dating, and don’t make him the main event, but rather one of the lucky ones you’re dating to see if he could possibly be Mr. Right, then maybe, just maybe, you’ll appreciate what he has to offer and not be so bothered by his clingy-ness.
Lots of times men don’t realize that nice guys don’t finish first. They finish last. When they give the woman too much attention, and come on too strong, they don’t seem like they’re deserving of her. In fact, they end up seeming desperate. If this guy does feel desperate, then he’s not going to be right for you. But if he’s just an intense guy with everyone, and you realize that you have other choices in men, but given that nobody is perfect, he’s actually pretty great in the scheme of things, then maybe he’s someone you’d consider pursuing a relationship with.
Other things you can do so that his clingy-ness doesn’t bother you are:
You don’t have to take every one of his calls. And you certainly don’t have to return them the same day. Just because he wants your attention doesn’t mean you have to give it to him. If he calls today, it’s perfectly good manners for you to return his call tomorrow. Or even the day after tomorrow.
The same is true with texts and e-mails.
If he asks you out on a subsequent date while you’re still on the first date, you can giggle and tell him he’s adorable, but not give him an answer. In other words, you have a hand in setting the schedule as much as he does. You just have different tools to use.
So, my advice is to give it another shot, but use the advice, above, and see if you have a better time this go round.
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