in need of some advice

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September 18, 2009 at 8:43 pm #1240

stevi8
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hey everyone,

i met this girl 2 weeks ago, and weve been hitting it off ever since, but 2 days ago, i went to lunch with her and some friends and she said she was feelin ill. so that night i text her to see if everything is ok, but i didnt get an answer. the day after(last night) i text her saying that i get the message that she doesnt wanna tlk to me anymore and stuff. but thena few hours later i get a text from her sayin; relax, ive been sick and didnt have credits, im sorry if ur upset.
i dnt really know what that message means and if she still wants to get together.
please help me with this.

regards, de toledo

September 19, 2009 at 1:55 am #10136

kchar
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Call her. Forget the texting.

September 19, 2009 at 5:03 pm #10069

April Masini
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It sounds like you’ve been getting some mixed messages — literally! Sometimes text messages or e-mails can get convoluted if the service isn’t working right. Since you had 2 weeks of getting along with this new woman, and she was sick, and maybe not herself, and having technical difficulties with her text service, I’d wait a few days and rather than text her, try a different method of communication. You can wait until you run into her in person, or call her on the telephone. Plain old e-mail works, too!

Try it, and let me know what happens.

September 21, 2009 at 2:42 am #10148

optimistvik
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i too feel it best to call her and talk directly rather than confusing yourself with her text..

September 22, 2009 at 12:42 pm #10247

stevi8
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hi, thank u for ur advice, things are back to normal, but i feel weird whenever we have lunch together or breakfast, there are no awkward silences, but i keep having this feeling she wants to be jus friends.

September 23, 2009 at 10:37 pm #10043

April Masini
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If you think she just wants to be friends, then you’re probably right. The weirdness is because you want more than friends, and she knows it.

My advice to you is to stop being so available to her. She may feel like you’re too much of a nice guy who’s always there, always around, always wanting her…..always the doormat to be walked on. Women don’t go for the nice guy. They go for the man they think they may not be able to get. They want the man who may not have time for them. They often really go for the guy who appears confident and even cocky.

I’m not suggesting that you ~~[i]~~not[/i] be nice. I just want you to have every advantage here. Women usually equate nice guys with boring and predictable. Snoozzzzzze. So, be charming and intriguing and be less available. Then, when you call her up and ask her out, she won’t have just seen you at lunch — and breakfast — every day!
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