ex gf still has feelings?

You’re grasping at straws. Whether or not her feet on a chair means anything other than she was resting them, or that she was sending you a secret sexual signal is really irrelevant. If you want to get back together with her, ask her out on a date. If she wants to go, you’ll know it because she’ll say yes. Trying to read the hidden meaning of feet on a chair is just going to waste your time. A simple, “Would you like to have dinner with me on Thursday?” will get you an answer a lot quicker! Without the hidden meanings!!

If she says no, then it’s time for you to seriously move on. A year is enough time for you to have dealt with the break up, if you’re going to. Make sure you’re really moving on and not just “not seeing her.” If she doesn’t want to date you any more, then you need to start dating other women. Look for women who do have the same principles in life that you do, since you wrote that that was the breaking point between your ex and yourself. But do start playing the numbers game in dating. If you don’t date, you won’t get to know if an attractive woman is Ms. Right or not!

I’m sorry, but the more you tell me, the more I think she’s over her relationship with you, and after a year, has moved on. It’s time for you to do the same.

It does, however, sound like you have some fear of rejection that may be keeping you from asking out other women, and exploring the world of dating to see if Ms. Right is out there somewhere for you. When you mentioned that you didn’t want to ask your ex out because last time you did, she said no, and you sounded desperate and woke up the next day hating yourself, I got an inkling of this fear.

Please know that when someone rejects you, they’re actually doing you a favor. You have to take a step backwards to see the favor, but the reality is that they’re keeping you from wasting time with someone who’s not interested in you. Not everyone is your soul mate, and if they can save you months of dating in order to find out if they’re the one, with a simple, “No, sorry – I’m not interested,” well, then, they’ve saved you lots of time and possible heartache. The quick sting of their no will become less painful the more you date and understand that in order to find Ms. Right, you have to get out there and ask women out. They’re not all going to say yes to you, in fact, you’re going to have to say no to some of them, when you don’t ask them out for a subsequent date because you’ve discovered they’re not right for you! So know that there is pain in life, but that in order to get to the pleasure of finding true love, you’re going to have to suffer the temporary sting of some “no” along the way.