Dating at the age of 53

Hey, you’re not too old to benefit from my book, Think & Date Like A Man! Because, believe it or not, I get dating questions from people who are pre-teens, all the way up through senior citizens, and married multiple times, so you may be 53, but you’re not a novelty to me!

The book will give you in detail what I’m going to give you in a nutshell here. The basic dynamic of dating is that men like to chase and capture. When what they’ve gotten is a prize, they want to keep it. That’s where you come in. As a woman, you are the prize. You’ve obviously done a great job at being attractive and alluring so that this guy you really like, wants you. Your anxiety is understandable, so here’s what I can tell you to alleviate it.

You’re ready to sleep with him after 15 dates. (Not that this number is a hard and fast rule. Given your background and your lifestyle — kids out of the house, 2 divorces, etc. — and that you’ve spent time getting to know him, you’re ready.) Your job in the bedroom is to be as alluring and interesting as you’ve been out of the bedroom, so that the two of you get to know each other sexually, romantically, and increase your intimacy.

“Giving it up,” is a funny way to describe sex because it implies there’s a one time ticket involved. The key to a great sex life is in the longevity of your sex life. Every time you go to bed with your boyfriend, you get to do the same old stuff, your favorite stuff, or something new. You get to express your emotions and your sexuality with him. This is another arena for you to discover each other, and share yourselves with each other. So let go of the idea that once you’ve gone to bed with him, it’s all over. The truth is, this phase of your life together will just be beginning.

The cold, hard truth is that sometimes relationships don’t work out, and when women have invested themselves sexually, they are sometimes more hurt when a break up comes. The sex bonds them to men in a different way than it bonds men to women. But life is full of surprises, good and bad, and it’s better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all. You’re playing your cards right, and you’re not jumping into bed with someone you met this afternoon, so I think you have to understand, especially as someone who’s been divorced a couple of times, that even the best love affairs and marriages sometimes don’t pan out. But you can’t let that stop you from living your life to it’s fullest at any age.

So, go for it. You’re being smart, but you can’t control everything in life, so make your decisions wisely, and then let go and allow passion to become part of your life. I have a feeling you’re going to be just fine.