no girlfriend

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March 24, 2010 at 7:55 am #2147

relationshipa1
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hi im benny, im 20 years old and never had a girlfriend, i have only had one night hookups and one night stands, but im tired of it, i dont even know how many girls i hooked up with in the last year, i lost my virginity during a noght night stand, and i feel horrible, i feel empty, i want someone to share my life with, someone to love, its just that all the girls i ever liked, never liked me back, and always used me for sex. the only relationship i ever had was a girl i met, and i left the week after to america while she stayed in england, so it became a long distance relationship, but we never met again.

i know there isn’t an answer, but i thought i might take a shot: how can i find a girl who loves me and not just wants a hookup

March 24, 2010 at 4:54 pm #11433

April Masini
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The best way to find a woman who likes you for more than just sex is to not jump into bed with her. Instead, spend a month or more getting to know her — while taking her out on dates that promote intimacy without sex. For instance, a candlelit dinner or a picnic and a hike can be extremely romantic and set the scene for the two of you to get to know one another as romantic partners and potential girlfriend and boyfriend before you jump the gun and hit the sack.

You may also want to change the venues where you’re meeting the women you’ve hooked up with. In other words, stay away from bars and parties where the girls (and YOU) are inebriated and lacking judgment (even if it’s temporarily). Instead, meet women during the day at places you like to normally be — like volunteering, at a coffee shop, walking your dog, gardening, hiking or any other place or activity where a woman would be there because she wants to be there for herself, not just for hooking up.

You may have to make some adjustments in your life, but I think you’ll be happy with the results.

March 25, 2010 at 5:53 am #10890

katdawg
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you have to “BE” what you “WANT”. you are acting out the same behaviors as the women you are talking about. you too, are using women for just sex because it does take two. how can you expect a woman to not just use you for sex if you’re so free with it? too many girls/women are too free with it and that’s the problem. it’s becoming to easy for men to obtain sex and it’s just in their nature to stick it where it’s warm and willing. you have to take control of your desires and save it for someone who is really worth it. remember – you have to behave like what you want otherwise you’re going to continue to attract the person on your same wave length.

March 25, 2010 at 2:45 pm #11575

April Masini
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Great advice, ~~[i]~~Katdawg[/i].
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