Is he just playing with me?

First of all….. you don’t really tell a guy you like him because you want him to reject you. 😕 You may be fooling yourself with that one, but you’re not fooling me! 😉 Try to be okay with your feelings and accept the fact that you do like him, and you are interested in him, and you didn’t really want that solid no — you wanted the yes! 😀

Second of all…. the reason I suggest that women not ask guys if they like them or ask them out on dates is because once they ask and get an answer, they may not get the action that supports the words that these guys say. And when a guy says one thing and does another, always trust the behavior. So it’s great that he told you he does like you and is interested in dating you, but until he does…. I wouldn’t put a lot of energy into the future with him.

And third, he told you he’s interested in someone else — and he still may be. In fact, he could be interested in both of you! That happens. 🙂

And lastly, I hope you’ll let go of the idea that he’s screwing around with you if he likes you and likes someone else, too. That’s not really screwing around. That’s being honest about his feelings. Usually, I suggest that if you’re dating someone, you use the first three months of dating to figure out if you both want to continue dating each other — so that you really get to know each other without the pressure of a commitment. And if you do want to continue seeing each other, then I suggest that you use the second three months to decide if you want to be monogamous. This really slows thing down so you don’t feel rushed and you don’t pressure each other to commit — and most importantly, get to figure out if you’re each the Mr. and Ms. Right for each other.

Hope that helps! 🙂

Thank you for the information — it really helps me when you tell me that you’re 23 and 24 and new to dating. 🙂

When a guy is interested in you — he’ll ask you out on a date. That’s the bottom line basis for knowing how interested he is. Clearly, the things you mentioned are all indications that he likes you. But until he actually invites you on a date, you’re going to be making yourself crazy by trying to analyze and dissect every little thing. That’s not what I want for you. 😉

Since you’re both new to dating, and he’s telling your friends that the two of you are dating, even though he hasn’t asked you out on a date, you can playfully tease him about this and without making him feel badly about what he’s doing, tell him that you’re not really dating because if you were, he’d have taken you out to dinner, or invited you to go to the movies, or to take a walk in the park and hold hands or kiss you good night. It sounds like he needs a little flirtatious direction, and you can give them this information, while flirting with him, so he has something to chase after. That’s what guys like — they want to make you happy, and do the right thing, but they don’t always know what that right thing is, and if you coax him along, playfully and with compliments, he’ll get the idea. What you want to avoid is making him feel inadequate or bad about himself, and you want to avoid asking him out on the date. For a man, doing the asking and leading the way is going to be important to his self esteem and to how he feels about you and the relationship he has with you.

I hope that helps!

I think it’s a positive sign! 🙂 A guy you like asked you out to dinner, on a date, for the weekend — sounds good to me! 😀

Good question. 🙂

Because you’re trying to transition out of the friend zone, a kiss, holding hands, touching — these are all important steps to gauge how far out of the friend zone you are. So, yes…. a kiss is important for this reason. It’s also important because if a guy kisses you, he’s interested in romance with you. If he doesn’t kiss you, he’s not — or he’s conflicted. What you can do is to send him the signals that you’re interested in him in this way. Flirting is your best method of sending him the message you’re interested. 😎 Don’t discuss this — you’ll just make him feel comfortable and take away the opportunity for him to feel proud when he does kiss you. 🙂

Compliment him. Tease him. That should work. 😉

I don’t think you’re lost. You’re just not able to get the relationship — or more specifically, his behavior — to be what you want it to be, when you want it to be. 😉 Relax and let things play out. Continue to flirt with him. Don’t tell him what he should do — tell him how great he is at something. 😎 And just have fun — and don’t forget to play the field. If you have other irons in the fire, you won’t feel so dependent on his responses.