Roomie with a guy friend

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    Michieh087
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    I have known this guy friend for 2 years now. We graduated from the same program and got hired by the same company. Therefore, we both decided to moved in a two bedrooms apt and be roomies.
    Things he would do for/to me: but I’m not sure he’s doing this cause he’s my friend or he likes me. I’m have a strong feeling that he likes me. But since I have a crush on him, I think my feelings are clouded with imagination of him liking me back. Please help here:
    -he calls me his best friend
    -he always cook and asked me what to eat
    -we always hang out together
    -he would flirts with me sometimes- lightly touch my back, hands, and thighs
    -he has invited me to go with him to his sister’s wedding next month.

    However, this weekend, he had a friend, who is a girl, visited him for 2 days and a night. He introduced me to her and that was about it. I went to my room to study for my board. They stayed and talked in their room for a while and went out for a swim. Came back and HAD SEX in his room. Went out again and came back at night to have more sex.

    So now I don’t know anymore. I know that we are not in a relationship whatsoever. But I feel like he has no respect for me if he likes me (or he doesn’t like me and doesn’t really care about my feelings).

    I’m just so confused and sad now. Knowing that my crush roomie is hooking up with someone when I’m present.

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    April Masini
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    It’s really tough to have a roommate when there is physical attraction, and that’s what’s going on between the two of you. 😕 He definitely likes you — but since you’re not dating or even sleeping together — and there’s this sexual tension underlying everything, you’re waiting for him to make a move. And he still, might! But he’s recently made it clear that he’s not JUST interested in you … by dating this other woman. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to sleep with you, too. So now you get to decide how you want to to define this relationship, knowing he’s dating and sleeping with other women. If it bothers you, then why not just keep your relationship with him one of just roommates — which means NOT going to his sister’s wedding with him as a date. That definitely crosses the “just roommates” line. 😉 But if you do decide to sleep with him, understand that you are probably going to be there when he brings home other women to have sex with, too. I hope that helps. 🙂

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