[citizenkarl]

So I (17M) broke up with this girl(17) a year ago (nothing harsh, we got along fine after that). A few weeks ago she said that she regrets it and wants me back. I agreed since I liked her and we had talked a lot recently. She even told me quite fondly how she wanted to see me and of course I was nice to her as well (and not too over the top of course). Now suddenly it looks like she doesn’t want to be with me. I haven’t done anything really, she just randomly got colder and doesn’t want to text me as much(or not at all really). We even went to a music festival together before. I’m not sure what to do. I want to talk things clearer, but I’m a bit shy and don’t know what to say really. What should I think of this behaviour?

[Clara]

It sounds like something didn’t go right and you’re not quite sure what. Time to win her over! Instead of asking what’s wrong, do what’s right! Bring her flowers. Invite her out again, flirt with her and compliment her. If she doesn’t respond positively when you ask her out on dates, then you can move on and chalk it off to not being a match. But before you do that, give it another shot and bring your A game. 😉

[Eric Morgan]

The girl approached you and now she is withdrawing yourself. When you become too “nice” and get upset with her every mood swing, your value decreases. Is she becoming “cold”? So you become “ice cold”. When you ask her questions or pick her up, she feels like you are in her pocket. Give her some space so she can realize what life is like without you.
AskApril is right that to give her flowers, invite her out, flirt with her and compliment her. If despite all these efforts she does not give a positive response, then understand that you two are not a match and move on.

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