[alishamarie28]

A little over a week ago I met this trucker. we met when he honked at me as I was driving to a restaurant. He was sitting in his rig in a dept store parking lot. as we were driving back from the restaurant he honked again. so i pulled off towards him. he got out introduced himself. we talked for maybe 2 hours exchanged numbers. days later we have talked over the phone. he said he lives in dallas and that he is from virginia. he has sisters, a son, loves to cook. we got to know each other. we exchanged pictures with one another. on the 22 he texted me he’s at one of his customers he will get back to me. when i didnt hear from him in 2 days i was starting to thnk that was his way of telling me im no longer interested. then on the 25th he texts me and says he is sorry he was just now getting back to me. he said there was a death in his family and that he will get back to me very soon. i havent heard back from him in several days. i really like this guy. i can see us married. we have so much in common. my fear is once again i am being played. i hope that’s not the case. i cant help but think there is something fishy going on. he said he not married never was. whenever i call his number he never answers or calls me back. is he just weird like that or is he stringing me along? when i didnt hear back from his the first time i was ready to move on but then he texted me about someone dying. i want to believe that everything is ok.

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

Slow down! You met him a week ago when he honked at you from his truck. He hasn’t asked you out on a date and if he does, you should go and get to know him. But really get to know him. 🙂 Find out about who he is — right now, you know very little except that he drives a truck and has a phone number! It’s way too soon to see yourself married to him. 😉 Dating is a process, and if you rush it, you’ll get burned. In the meantime, play the field and keep busy. If you do, you won’t feel as invested in his asking you out or not. 🙂

[Sally]

I don’t think you’re crazy for liking him. That kind of meet-cute can mess with your head fast. But a week in, talking marriage, and he’s already disappearing? That’s not solid ground.

Truckers get busy, sure. Life happens, deaths happen. But someone who’s genuinely interested doesn’t go silent over and over, never answer calls, and only pop back up when you’re about to let go. That part feels off.

The hardest truth I learned is this: consistency is the real sign. Not chemistry. Not words. Consistency.

Right now, you’re filling in the blanks with hope because you want it to be real. I get that. But protect your heart. If he comes back, watch what he does, not what he says.
You’re not wrong to question this. Your gut’s already talking.

[Tara]

This man is not interested, not available, and not behaving like someone who intends to build anything real with you. Men who want a woman do not disappear for days, hide behind vague tragedies, ignore calls, and resurface only when it’s convenient. That’s not “weird,” that’s low effort and low accountability.

You met a stranger who honked at you twice, gave you a carefully curated life résumé, and now offers silence instead of consistency, and you’re already projecting marriage onto a man who can’t even return a phone call. That’s not romance, that’s fantasy filling in gaps left by his absence.

The “death in the family” may be true, or it may be a convenient excuse; it doesn’t matter, because the outcome is the same: no communication, no follow-through, no reliability. You’re not being courted, you’re being parked on standby. And the hardest part? You’re helping him do it by hoping instead of observing. Stop romanticizing scraps. Stop negotiating with silence. If a man wants you, you will not be confused, anxious, or guessing. Verdict: move on now, with dignity, before you waste more time proving to yourself what is already obvious.

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