I have been dating a girl for a couple months now. I found out by accident that she works at a massage place that offers “rub and tug” services. I freaked out and offered to help her get her life together. She quit right after I asked her to and with my help, has joined a GED education course and is learning full time.
When I asked her why she would ever get into this kind of work, which I can’t see her doing because she is such a large hearted person, she began to cry and told me that her father raped her when she was 16 and it lasted a year. She then entered into child services care. She said she did it for money to get herself, mother, brother and sister out of the Government Housing projects and into a decent area. She did it for money. She said she didn’t care about what was happening to her or how men used her body.
As for her past relationships, she has has about 7 meaningless relationships lasting only several months where she was basically used as a sex toy.
My question here is: Is there a real chance at a future with this girl? What are the chances of having a real future with her as my wife with children?
She says that a husband and children is what she wants and she is completely in love with me. She says she has never had a man love her for who she is and treat her like a woman like I do.
I know that drug addicts will do anything and use people to get what they want. My worry here is that she basically is looking at me as a ticket out of the ghetto and once she gets what she wants she will leave.
I want to know what are the typical behavioural and mental effects of a person from her situation.
Help me please. Any advice or knowledge in this case will help me make a more informed decision.
Thank You,
J
