[Twisteddestiny]

My bf & I have been exclusive for just over a year now. And we have talked seriously of our future together. But he has his ex GFs name tattoed on his wrist. I have dealt with the eyesore with minimal nagging. But recently something came up that pulled the trigger on the subject. And now I can’t/won’t let it go. It’s me or the ink!

TBH I am naturally an insecure & jealous person. With multiple mental health issues (Manic depression, anxiety etc) which I control remarkably well. We all have a past, fine. But it’s just like rubbing my nose in it constantly. It bothers me for many reasons- like when we’re in public and I get confused for her. Or when I hold his hand, there “she” is! IMO, if it were done &over with no lingering attachment he would want it covered. But instead it just makes me feel like a settlement or otherwise inadequate.

He had mentioned having it covered in the past, months ago. But since then, its almost like he defends it . And that I should just deal with it. “It’s his past, his body, his right.” Which of course, is true. But I refuse to just deal with it. The only way for it to not bother me is to not be wth him.

Am I being unreasonable? how would you feel? TIA

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

How I would feel isn’t important because this is your life! 😉 He’s made it clear that he’s not getting rid of the tattoo. You can either stay with him and make the best of it, or break up with him over the tattoo. You have to decide what’s more important — the tattoo or the relationship. If you can’t be with him because of the tattoo, then you have to make good on that — and in future, don’t even start up with anyone who has a tattoo with another woman’s name on his body.

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