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I met this guy on Tinder back in October. Turns out we went to the same school and have mutual friends (one told me he’s bit of a lad so watch out). We soon switched to texting/facebook/snapchat as we got on really well and we had long texts to each other and was replying quickly. It fizzled out around end of October but snapchat continued to the point of 4-5 individual snapchats to me with an on-going conversation every day until december.

Fast forward to december and its my birthday. I got a ‘happy birthday babe xxxx’ snapchat and I sent one back saying I was heading out to the place we both live tonight to a club, he replies me 2. I go out and don’t really snapchat him but I send one saying the bar I was in. He sent back come down to a certain club as he was there and it was next door to where we were. After deliberation I went there. I didn’t see him at first but then my friend tapped me on the shoulder and said why didn’t I say hi as apparently he just came up and said hello but as I was talking to someone else I didn’t see him. I then went into the toilets and about 30 seconds later he walks in and hugs the girl behind me in the queue and starts talking to her (he seemed to no her) I freaked out but had my back to him so hoped he didn’t notice me and backed out of the toilets quickly. I didn’t see him again until the end of the night when he was kissing this other girl (I wasn’t bothered, he’s a guy so what). We left and the next thing I no he was outside too (he must of followed like 10 seconds behind me so clearly wasn’t bothered about that girl) and he was walking the opposite way with his friends. So I shouted out his name but he didn’t hear so I text him as he was on his phone and within 10 seconds he was calling me and he said ‘come back, where are you,didn’t get to talk to you’ but by this point i was already in the taxi.

The next day I text him saying sorry didn’t see you etc, he never replied to me. That whole day I got no snapchats either. So a day’s gone past and 8am the next morning I get a snapchat saying he’s at the airport and going to thailand for a month. (I already knew this as he told me when we first were talking, but I had forgot). I sent him one back saying ‘hope to see you when your back’ I got nothing. He went away for the whole of xmas/new year. I only got one snapchat on xmas day saying ‘merry christmas from thailand xxxx’ so the whole time he was away I was planning what to do when he got back and tbh I couldn’t stop thinking about him.

Fast forward to the 7th january, he came home in the morning. I had no snapchat, no text nothing from him. So the next day I built up the courage and called him. He didn’t answer. I went back to work and he had called me back twice. I then called back after work but he didn’t answer. Instead 10 seconds after me hanging up he text saying ‘who is this?’. I was gutted, absolutely gutted and angry at myself for letting myself think about him every day when he was away. I text back ‘its my name, never saved my number then?’… he text back within 10 seconds saying ‘my phone got smashed in thailand so got no numbers saved. you rang? x’ … i replied ‘just called to see how thailand was x’ (I didn’t say I was actually ringing to ask him out for a drink’… he has never replied to that message (this was over 24 hours ago). I am not sure whether I believe his phone has smashed so he has lost his numbers but he still hasn’t been on snapchat or Facebook so maybe it makes sense. I don’t understand why being nice he could have just replied saying it was good thanks or called me back once he knew it was me.

I am now unsure of what to do and this is the advice I need. What do I do now? Should I call him again and go with what i was originally going to do and ask him out for a drink sometime before I got that text and lost my confidence. Do I wait for him to get snapchat back & phone sorted out? But tbh being a guy that could take a long time. I don’t want to give up as we were getting on so well and I keep thinking what if he hadn’t gone to thailand. Things could be so different now and I want to take a shot at it but things have just got in the way.

Please advise me on what to do now. I was debating texting him along the lines of.. it was good holiday then? I was wondering when I am actually going to meet you in person! but I am not sure. I don’t want to seem pushy but he’s also a laid back character he’s probably not bothered but it doesn’t explain the way we have been in each others lives every day since october and go to nothing for a month made me really miss him.

Its 2016, do I just go for it and take a shot?

Please be honest.
Thank you 🙂 P.S sorry long post, its a complicated situation.

[Ask April Masini]

This isn’t really all that complicated. You’re chasing a guy you met online on Tinder — who isn’t interested. 😳 You’ve never dated him. Time to move on! 😉

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