[jeshisha]

december 26, 2014. the day i said yes to a guy i thought cared for me. he always called and texted me. he told me that i was the only one for him. but i was not. he had a girlfriend. they already broke up according to him. but they didn’t. i was the third person in their relationship. he made me the person i hated the most. i broke up with him. yet he made me feel that his feelings were real. and i believed him. i met with him again and again. thinking that i was doing so to understand him. why did he have to hurt me? i loved him. i still do. he’s my first love and i could not get over him. he’s getting married. he seems happy. but i want him to be miserable. i want them to be miserable. but they are happy. it’s as if i was not there. that i was just nothing to him. i hate him. but i still love him. he broke my trust. and now i don’t think i can trust anyone else as much as i did with him.

i don’t know what to do.

help me…

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I understand how hurt you are, and the fact that he lied to you, cheated on you and is now marrying someone else, must feel like a triple whammy — even though you’re the one who broke up with him. 😳 I get it.

Here’s what you have to remember: You love someone who doesn’t exist. You can’t possibly love someone who lies and cheats — but he does. The person you really love is in your head and he’s a fantasy. This real guy wasn’t so great to you, or the other woman he was dating — and that’s just the one you know about!

It’s been almost a year now, and it’s time for you to move on. Start making sure you get out every day and every night. See friends. Engage in fun. And date other guys. Eventually, you’ll stop thinking of him as someone who was important to you, and he’ll be like a mountain in the rear view mirror of you car as you pull away, and one day won’t be able to see him there any more. 😉

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