April,
First thank you so much for taking out the time to help so many people. I appreciate any guidance you can give me.
For the last couple of months (4 to be exact), I have been dating this guy. We are not committed, just dating. Since we have been seeing each other, he has been a complete gentleman. Unfortunately because both of us are extremely busy, two months into seeing each other he asked if he could talk to me about us. At the time, he mentioned that he really liked seeing me, but that right now we couldn’t get into something serious. I agreed w/ him then. Then he said that was his reasoning as well and didn’t feel he could but in the time and make me feel like he wasn’t around for me. At the moment I thought it was sweet. About a week ago, I decided I would add him on a social media account. I was aware he didn’t use it too often. When I saw him later on that week I mentioned that I added him and he stated that he had seen it but because he didn’t have the app… he would have to wait until he got on his computer. It took him about a week total to accept. When he accepted I snooped…and found out he had been in a long term relationship (2 years) prior to moving to our current city for grad school. The girl was very much invested in the family as there are some pictures of her at dinners or his graduation (none of which he’s posted). One picture is just a month before he started attending grad school.
He’s never mentioned her in any of our conversations. I’m scared. As far as I know, they don’t really communicate anymore.
Thanks again,
The concerned new girl
