[dalila.moran@yahoo]

Hello,

I can’t stop thinking about this guy and I just feel at times like if he is thinking of me. Its so weird. I hope I’m not going crazy lol. I just don’t want to be the only one contacting him. I don’t like to create bad habits or patterns and don’t want to pressure anything. I mean at first we would text each other and I would get more feedback now that I don’t work there anymore he doesn’t contact me. Its been 4 months we don’t talk and I refuse to call him. I want it to be a mutual thing like before. We were coworkers and awesome friends and he seemed to enjoy my company. I never told him how I felt I was on denial of my feelings for him cause I’ve been married for 13 years but I’m not in love with my husband and have our issues so when I left the company I started missing him soooo much that I literally cried for him. Then to make things more complicated did a 360 and got married less then 6 months and had a baby because he told me about her when he was dating her @ always wanted my opinion and advice about things.That’s when it hit me how unhappy I was and how much I felt for him. I finally told him how I felt almost a year later and explained it. The few times we were texting each other it was for long periods of time sometimes 6 hours. He didn’t say much about his feelings towards me but he seemed like shocked because we were on the phone for like 7 hours and i literally had to be the one ending the conversation. He did say that he thought of us a couple of times before in a romantic way but he put it lightly. He did admit he missed me at on point we spoke and questioned why I never told him nothing before? Then he laughed and said he would of been to much for me. Then we spoke a few times more after and for some odd reason the phone conversations started to get a lil spicy which he initiated then he backed off. We haven’t spoken since then. He just puts likes on my linkedin posts. I know hes a good guy and I’m not a home wrecker. I know its a done deal that we can’t be but just to know he felt something for me at that time would at least put me at ease. :(.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Well, the only question you asked me is in the title of your post, and the answer is, yes, he could have feelings for you, but he isn’t going to act on them — in fact, he’s acted away from them, getting married, having a baby, and cutting off personal contact with you.

The problem you’re not addressing is that you’re unhappy in your 13 year marriage and are looking for easy ways to make yourself feel better. 😳 This guy is a distraction, not a solution. He isn’t the issue here. Your relationship of 13 years is. Decide if you want to work on your relationship or not. If the answer is yes, then roll up your sleeves and get started! 😉 If the answer is no, then consider a divorce.

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[dalila.moran@yahoo]

This is an awesome thing you have going with this website! I was happy to see your prompt response. I totally appreciate your time. As far as my marriage I know I have to step it up and decide. I have told him I want space and I’m working my way slowly but surely in that direction as soon as I get my finances in order and get a decent paying job because I’m unemployed.🙁 I don’t want to be in a relationship for the wrong reasons. I don’t think I have given myself a fair chance. I married to young and didn’t date enough. He was pretty much my first in everything. I know it sounds pretty old fashion lol but that’s the truth. I feel the need to live life a lil more and weigh my options and see where my heart is. I just would of hoped this guy would of Mentioned something to me if he really liked me at that time. Maybe he was playing it safe because he knew I was married? Idk but the fact still remains the same. He’s of the market and I can’t go there again. I just miss him sooooo much. I wonder if he even thinks about me or even miss me 🙁

[April Masini, your AskApril]

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[dalila.moran@yahoo]

Hello is me again 🙂 regarding the situation of a guy I met 2 years ago now. Its been 4months that we didn’t speak because like I said on my previous post I didn’t want to be the one always being the first to get in contact with him just to say hello and I didn’t want to give him the wrong impression either. I can’t lie though I kept thinking about him those 4months we didn’t speak until I received a text from him asking me if I was still alive lol. It so weird right? I was shocked to see his text because I was really starting to get use to not communicating with him so i answered him the next day. I told him I thought by this time we had already scratched each other out of the surface. To make the story short he asked me questions about my life to see how I was doing and it was like if hes been talking to me every day. He said I was missing cause I stop communicating. Then I expressed to him that I don’t like to create bad habits or patterns it has to be mutual so he quickly text saying off course is obvious its mutual he said. Is like we started from were he left of and one thing lead to the other then he asked me where i was living because he wanted to see me. It was like time stop when he said that I was shocked. I just told him I was out of town that maybe we can meet up when I’m back kind of like a rain check. Then we continued the conversation and he started to flirt with me again. I’m kind of confuse about him now. What could his intentions be with me? Does he have feelings for me now? Does he care about me? Or hes just not to happy in his marriage now? He did marry her within 6 months of dating her so i don’t know if hes having problems. This has me on a loop. Is like he keeps popping in and out of my life.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[quote]What could his intentions be with me? Does he have feelings for me now? Does he care about me? Or hes just not to happy in his marriage now? [/quote]

He’s looking for an extra-marital affair, and he thinks you’re available for that. 😉

However…. you’re still focusing on him, and not on you, your husband, and your thirteen year marriage. If you have problems in your marriage, it’s always a good idea to address those, and not the distractions that you put center stage in order to not have to do the hard work that long-term relationships require. 😉

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