I split up with someone I was very fond of, his choice, in March. I believed that was the end of things and began rebuilding my happiness, accepting he’d no longer be part of my life.
After about a month, he started emailing me, which eventually led to further online chat and he opened up my feelings again for him.
A few weeks back, he invited me to walk the highest mountain in Ireland and meet his 4 year old Irish daughter, which coincided with me leaving my current job.
Trip paid by me, and with 12 hours to go, and only an indication that day that he was having issues with the world, he texted me to say he was angry with the world, his builders and had decided that he’s going back to work in Afghanistan. He told me that he didn’t want me to come over as my positivity would drive him mad.
I felt really upset by this action and the way he communicated. I responded to say that I would cancel the trip, but he should reimburse me, though I wouldn’t hold my breath. His response was I was nasty and predictable.
The end result was I was surprised he’s thought that given that he’s not phoned, not considered my feelings and how I might react, and I said he was miserable and spineless.
That’s the headlines to this but could I have handled this better? It’s not the first time he bailed at an important time…and he confesses to locking himself away from the world as much as possible as he doesn’t really like most people.
Was I right?
