[ChelleyTheBoss]

I was in a year and a half relationship with my ex. We broke up about 10 months ago and I’m still in love with him. I recently got into a new relationship about a month ago with someone else. I don’t believe it’s unfair for my new boyfriend because I am in a relationship with him because I do have feelings for him. Nor do I believe he is a rebound; seeing that I’ve waited almost a year before becoming a part of someone elses life. Yet and still, I continue to think about my ex everyday. The relationship we had was very intense. We both loved each other completely and our bond was crazy. We were each others first loves- Now me and him are barely even in contact but I still can’t seem to shake him off. When our relationship ended we kind of just faded away from each other and never had any closure. I’m curious as to whether he still feels the same way or not… Should I write him a closure letter? Should I just get over him and forget about him on my own? Should I fill my current boyfriend in? Should i just shake him off and carry on with my new relationship? I’m totally lost in the sauce. Help!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Because your ex was your first love, you’re probably carrying more importance for him in your heart and mind than if he wasn’t. But even given that, I don’t advise that you write him for closure. It’s been 10 months already. You have a new boyfriend. Let it be okay that you still think about your ex, as long as you don’t act out on those feelings. Eventually you won’t think about him any more. I know you want to flush your ex from your mind, but feelings run their own course. What you DO have control of are your actions, and if you live each day with integrity, you’ll be doing the right thing.

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