[jjgirl]

Hello,

I have some mind troubling and heart breaking experience with this guy. We met online and became close friends as time passed by. I know that long distance relationship may sound unusual and challenging but i really can’t help myself fall for him. Yes, i fall inlove with him as we get to know each other online. We exchanged sweet thoughts in facebook and even he posted my pics on his fb saying that im his inspiration. I was overwhelmed and fall for him more. He’s so sweet and caring to me. But there is this one incident that ruined everything what i thought about him. He say’s he will have a seminar in other country and he might not be able to talk to me for 3 days. So i said okay and ill wait for him to come back. I waited for 3 days but I did not heard anything from him. So the next thing i did is to check his facebook. A girl posted a pic on his facebook. Its a pic of a girl and a little girl. The girl says they are back. So I did not mind it and i thought its just his sister or cousin. On the 4th day, I was more worried because i did not hear anything from him. I checked is facebook again. I was so shocked of what I saw. A girl posted another pic again, this time its his pic, and then the comment below, it says i love you dad, from (little girl name) and then the comments below what i read was from his friends, like your dad si blah blah blah, i cant remember exact words because i am already clouded with rage. I was so hurt, so pissed and so mad to him and much more to myself. What i did next is i blocked him in facebook, deleted his contacts online and blocked our entire communication. I never said goodbye because i don’t think he deserves that. I was so mad and i having a hard time to move on. Even at work i was crying. Slowly and as time passed by i moved on. I was happy and think of a positive way on how to enjoy my life. I joined extreme sports, charities and go out with decent guys who are asking me out. After 5 months i received an invite on my online im. I accepted it. I said thanks for adding me. I was surprised to know that its that guy again. Hes asking me if i still remember him, i said yes. He asked about my love life and i said im happy (White lie – i want him to know that im happy after all those worst things he did to me) and i return the question back, he says he still single. He never asked me what happened before and he also he never told me why he didnt came back after 3 days. I was surprised that im not mad at him now, like all the worst thing i felt before was gone. On that instant. Its weird. As days passed by, we became friends. I am the type of person who never holds a grudge to another person so i dont mind being his friend since i realized its not an official relationship of what we had before. Right now, i dont understand what he’s planning to do to me. He keeps saying he miss me and loves me a lot. He even keeps his promises now which is weird. My heart is happy but my mind keeps bugging me. It keeps saying dont get deceived by that jerk again, remember, HE HAS A DAUGHTER! HE LIED TO YOU and EVEN NOW HE DIDNT EVEN BOTHER TO TELL YOU THE TRUTH, that’s what my mind keeps saying to me. I want to ask him about it, but what i want is he should be the one to initiate that topic and not me. I want it to come from him. I might give him another chance because i admit i still have feelings for him, but i am very confused right now. I still go out on a date with another guy just to keep him out of my mind but when im on a date, i still think of him. I dont know what to do now. Please help!

Thanks,

jjgirl </3

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m not sure how old you are, but it’s time for you to learn that if you meet someone on the internet, and never date them in real life, there’s a good chance you don’t know them very well. 😳 My advice is to stop blaming this guy and any other men you may meet online, and start taking responsibility for your own actions. I know that’s a little harsh, but you’re trying to get him to change, when what you should be doing is getting YOURSELF to change. 😉 You’ll have a lot more success and happiness in life that way.

Before you give this guy another chance, you really need to ask him about his daughter. I know you want him to be forthcoming, but he isn’t. So if you want to have any kind of relationship with him, you need to ask him about the girl on his Facebook page.

Then, you need to decide if he’s someone who’s ever going to ask you out on a date in real life. If he isn’t, then you need to move on. The problem with relationships that exist only online, is that they exist only online. And when that happens, he’s usually seeing other women in real life and online, too.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAPrilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

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