My boyfriend recently broke up with me because a lot of unfortunate things happened to him all at once. He lost his job, has many student loans to pay, and his bandmate just quit his band (they were currently in the process of getting signed with a record deal and recording an album and with him out of the picture, this is totally ruined). He told me that his life is in shambles and he has no idea what he is going to do now. He said he needs to regroup his life before being with anyone.
When he lost his job, I helped him pay for things like food, cigarettes, etc. when I went to visit him. Other than these life issues, there were no problems with the relationship and I felt that we were very happy together. He told me that he felt guilty that I had to pay for things and deal with his issues.
When he broke up with me, he didn’t want me out of his life and wanted to still talk to me. I quickly realized that this was not a good idea because if we could not be together, I did not want to stick around as a friend. It hurt too much. He still continued to talk to me all throughout the day even though we were broken up and it was very hard for me.
When I told him that I did not wish to continue our friendship, he seemed upset/surprised that I did not wish to talk to him anymore. I feel completely broken now because I have gone two days without talking to him at all. It kills me because I wish I could talk to him but I am the one who told him we cannot be friends.
What do you think I should do about this? Is there any hope here or should I just cut him out of my life completely ?
Thank you for your help. 😐
