[austinbfmv11]

So this is the story. I met this girl the beginning of sophomore year (I’m currently a junior finishing up the year). We became friends all throughout sophomore year, but we really didn’t get a chance to hangout much over the summer due to vacations, family, and other trips. Once junior year started, it turned out we had some classes together, so we really started to become close again. At the time, I was super busy, and just wasn’t looking for a relationship, although I did have some sort of feelings for her. During October, me, her, and a couple other friends went to the annual fair that comes to our city. Before the fair, I was getting some pretty clear signs from her and her friends that she liked me. She kept talking about how I was “unfortunately” going to have to be her ride partner, but in the flirty kind of way. So, I was pretty sure she was attracted to me, yet I was still weary of asking her out because I didn’t want to end up ruining the friendship we had created if something were to happen and we broke up. So, the fair came and went. She was pretty flirty with me, and I was nice, but I didn’t get too flirty, as I didn’t want to lead her on. Time went on, and we still hung out and talked all the time. One night we were texting, and the topic of relationships came up. She asked me if I liked anyone, and I told her what I had been thinking to myself for the past few months, that I just didn’t have the time to like anyone at the time. Now, I severely regret saying that. I believe that was the moment that she moved on from me. Soon after, she began talking to me about this guy she met where she works (Chickfila), and how he had asked her on a date. Over the next 2 months, she hung out with this guy, and she thought that he would ask her out, but he never did. So she was pretty upset when he basically ditched her one night and decided to just move on from him. Over the entire time though, I had begun to get more intense feelings for her. I was actually pretty happy that she ended things with him. I still hang out with her now, but I don’t know if she still has any of the same feelings for me that she did before. Do girls keep the same feelings for someone? I’ve slowly started to become really jealous when she flirts with other guys, but she still thinks that I don’t have the time for a girlfriend right now. I don’t know what to do! I hung out with her all yesterday, but we really didn’t do much. Just roamed around some stores and drove around and talked. I want to tell her how I feel, but if she no longer feels the same, I don’t want things to become awkward between us. Any advice would be appreciated, and thank you in advance.

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

You need to ask her out on a date. If you don’t, you’ll never know if she’ll say yes. I know you regret missing the moment to do so, back when she asked you if you liked anyone, but she’s now single and so are you. Don’t have the same regret twice! Ask her out for this coming weekend. 😉

Let me know how that goes, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

[austinbfmv11]

Thanks for the advice. We had already planned on going to a rave and doing some partying this weekend, but I’m still unsure of whether I want to tell her how I feel.

Our high school prom is coming up in a couple of months, and a while back we did a sort of agreement to go with each other. But now, I’m not sure if we are going together. Someone else asked her just last weekend and she didn’t give him a “no, I already have a date” answer. She gave him an “I don’t know” answer (there have been a couple other guys who have asked her also). I talked to her about it afterward (as I was there when the guy asked her), and she said that she knew she was going to hurt someone’s feelings by going with someone else and then feel really bad. I honestly had no clue what to do, so I told her that she should go with whoever she wants and that we’ll all end up having fun anyway (as I didn’t want to seem like I would die if she didn’t go with me). One of our mutual friends also doesn’t have a date to prom and she is a really sweet girl (Savannah), but also very, VERY shy. Sara (the girl I have feelings for) was talking to me about how I should ask Savannah to prom, but tell her just as friends, because she didn’t think that Savannah would do much to find a date herself. This was all said after Sara and I had agreed to go together, but before the other guys had asked her. So I just don’t understand why she would ask me if I wanted to ask Savannah AFTER we had decided to go with each other already. Is she wanting to find someone to go with that isn’t a friend, but rather a guy that likes her?

I’m very sorry for throwing all of this out. I just have no clue what to think. There is always so much going through my head about what on earth she is thinking. I can find another date to prom, but I’d really rather go with Sara (and I’ve told her this). If you didn’t understand anything, just let me know and I can try and clear it up. I basically just wrote my thoughts. Thanks again!

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

I’m telling you what to do, [i]but you’re not taking my advice:[/i] [b]Ask her out on a date.[/b] Call her up, and tell her you want to take her to the movies this weekend. A date. A real date. Just the two of you. Just do it. 😀

You’re sending her mixed signals and you’re really not making her feel like you care about as anything more than a friend who’s crushing from a distance, and is willing to take the back seat, so she can go to the prom with someone else. If you want her to go with you, then you have to be more assertive.

Today. Pick up the phone. Ask her out! 😉

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