[twistn9]

Hello April,

There’s a girl I got to know. There was something about her that really struck me. Unfortunately I was a bit awkward and lost her attention. I think she might have avoided me a couple months back in person.

I caught myself thinking about her the other day wondering how she is. So much has changed for me since. I feel compelled to try contacting her, showing a sincere interest in her. I’m thinking a short email so she doesn’t feel pressured. I want to earn her attention back.

Can you recommend saying anything? I don’t want to be strange out of the blue, but put myself out there sincerely, not to achieve any personal desire but rather show that I care.

Many thanks!

JP

[April Masini, your AskApril]

A short e-mail is a great idea — but make sure that you convey how you are different. Remember that first impressions count! Since you blew the first one, you have to do damage control this second time around, so give it your very best shot. Make sure that this time you get her attention in a good way. If you’re feeling a little bolder, you could send her flowers out of the blue. That might really intrigue her! 🙂

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[twistn9]

Okay, I’ll give it a shot. Indeed, I went though a phase of being indifferent towards her, and feel I got the same back.

I thought of her while doing something she’s incredibly passionate about. I’ll mention that. In many ways I was confused about her. Should I say that; perhaps more elegantly? 😉

Thank you!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Yes! 😀

[limper1]

Hi April,

Thank you! Sorry, one more question. Should I make any forward gestures such as asking her to coffee, or keep it low pressure and ask her how she’s been?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Definitely ask her out for coffee in the e-mail. This will give her the clarity that you’re interested in getting together and seeing her, and her response will give you the clarity of her interest (or lack of it). 😉

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[twistn9]

Hi April,

Would this be fine? I’m just procrastinating.

“I was out on a (the activity) and you came to mind. I was confused about you; it was unbecoming. Much has changed for the better and I’m wonder how you have been. Would you like to grab a coffee?”

(Dare I say she actually inspired me to be a better man… ha… maybe just too open?)

[April Masini, your AskApril]

My advice is not to write anything that can be construed as negative. For instance, don’t say you were confused. Women don’t really like confused men. They like confident ones. 😉 And don’t talk about how much has changed for the better because that reminds her that things were less than better in the past. Just keep it short and sweet — and positive! 😉

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[twistn9]

Indeed, great advice. I felt the same way… just seemed off, like I’m trying to convince her of something in 40 words or less.

Maybe… “… you came to mind. I was thinking about you, wondering how you’ve been. Are you free to grab a coffee?”

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Much better! 😀

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