[Anonymous]

So here goes my story I met this guy 6 months ago we started dating officially after 2 months all this period he didn’t tell me he had kids or was ever married all I knew was he was with a woman for 8 years ! Well he seemed to be busy and sometimes we make plans but he seemed to always be busy and we’ll we have to reschedule and then we get to see. At a point I tot to myself yes I know he loves his job but it shouldn’t be this bad! We see like every 2weeks. Eventually he opened up to me and told me he had kids and he wanted to tell me from the beginning but since I mentioned I can’t date a man with kids he left it out cause he didn’t want to lose me he wanted me to like him first before telling me !well I was hurt and still I liked him and didn’t breakup with him. And he opened up to me about his ex and they broke up two years ago well according to him she was cheating and he said he would have stayed for the sake of their kids but she didn’t. So back to us, well we spoke daily and try to work things out. He has his kids almost every other day so balancing work and kids was a lot but I tried to understand
.well the issue was it was becoming to much and it was interfering with us meeting, and I was complaining and he once mentioned he doesn’t think his enough for me and cause of his baggage he might not give me the commitment I wanted. Well we talked through it and decided to just make it work. On my birthday he didn’t make it cause of an emergency at work and I was upset and angry. I told him . A day after my birthday he sent me a message saying he doesn’t deserve me as a gf and I am better than him! Boom he blocked me on WhatsApp! Viber!even calls!!! And that was it! I don’t know what to do.I am heartbroken. Before now he mentioned I was stressing him and making him feel like a bad person.and it is pulling him down

[April Masini, your AskApril]

He did you a favor. Anyone who knows you won’t date someone with kids, so he decides to lie and say he doesn’t have them when he does, is selfish. And that’s been his through line. You can only begin to guess what else he hasn’t told you about. My advice is to move on and find someone new to date. He’s not going to take care of you in any way, nor does he respect you. Be grateful for the break up. 😉 You don’t see it yet, but it’s a gift.

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