[Ella7_]

Hello, April.

I met a boy a month and a half ago via internet. He was texting me everyday but on the weekends. On the two dates we had he spoke little about his ex but just in relation to an accident they had with their car. I spoke to him about the internet (cause I stopped chating to other guys) but he didn’t to other girls (I saw it but he didn’t know that I did). He refused to talk about that and grew up a little distant. There were three weeks that he didnt gave me a day for our date we had planned. I was feeling so bad about that. On Sunday he spoked to me because he was on line and I’ve discovered he added a new girl. I was furious so I told him that I knew he has chatting to other girls (and they are not girlfriends of him but girls looking for sex, relathionships.. ect) He got really angry and told me not to contact him because I didn’t trust him and to erase his phone number.

I am feeling so bad, I was starting to like that boy.

Sometimes I feel I should contact him and tell him sorry for not trusting him, others I feel that he is just a player and I should stay strong and show him who I am by not making any contact.

what should I do???

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Definitely do not contact him again. He’s made it clear he doesn’t want to see or talk to you, so it’s best to respect that. However….. for future, you should understand that any guy you meet on the internet is most likely looking to meet up with other women and that until the two of you have some kind of commitment to each other, usually around three and six months after dating, then again, you should assume he’s seeing other women. It’s very normal to play the field until you meet someone you want to commit to. That’s what he was doing. But YOUR job is to figure out if any guy you’re dating is Mr. Right. That means you have to know what you want, know yourself, and be able to figure out if he’s that person. This guy is not.

I hope that helps. Please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

[Ella7_]

Thank you, April. Well, I haven’t made any contact. It is hard no to do it but I guess If he told me not to is because he doesn’t like me the same way I liked him, or because he likes any of these girls. I am so dissapointed. I am scared I came across with him on the stree (we study at the same campus, and although it is quite big, there is such a big chance I came across with him). I don’t know what to do if he contacts me or I came across with him.
Anyways, thank you so much for you answer!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If you cross paths, just smile, politely. Good manners can bridge the most awkward gaps! 😉

Like I said, use this experience to learn more about yourself and what works for you when you’re looking for Mr. Right! 😀

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