[PavicA]

Hello my name is Aleksandar i was hoping you could help me with a problem i am having in my relationship. Me and my girlfriend met in Cuba this past September we came back to Canada and we continued to talk we are bot attracted to each other. The issue we are having is this, shes been single for a few years so she always depended on herself and was always independent, trusting her own self with issues and problems. I’m very caring and im not saying its always right to do that, i tend to message her once and sometimes she doesn’t reply right away sometimes it takes her an hour or a few hours, she likes to keep herself busy, but when she doesn’t reply for a while i worry that something is wrong so i tend to message her again and sometimes even call her.

What i would like to know about this issue is this, i know i need to give her her space when she asks and i understand we cant talk all day everyday. And she doesn’t like when i do that message her multiple times if she doesnt answer. and like i said she hasn’t had a boyfriend in a few years, so would you say that we arent understanding each other or would u say we need to get used to the fact that, for example my point of view is that i need to get used to when she wants her space and that we cant talk all day everyday and from her point of view is that she needs to get used to that im going to be around and there for her.

I really like this girl and i want this relationship to last please help me keep her by my side

[April Masini, your AskApril]

How old are you both? Are you both in Canada now?

[PavicA]

i am 22 she is turning 26 this month yes we both are in canada we just live in other cities

[PavicA]

i dont know if you got my reply or if im doing it right to reply,
but im 22 shes turning 26 this month, we both live in canada same province just different cities about an hour and 10 mins away

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I trust that since you’re both close by, you’re actually dating and seeing each other face to face regularly. 🙂 If that’s the case, then my suggestion is that you back off a little and give her the space she needs. In relationships there are compromises to be made, and it sounds like the one she’s asking for is reasonable. In addition, my guess is that if you back off on the texts, she’ll start texting you a little more! Sometimes a little absence creates mystery that is attractive.

I hope that helps. Let me know how it goes! And please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter! 😀

[PavicA]

we dont see each other as often as we should im in the process of getting a job, and we communicate through emails and phone calls because at the moment i dont have a working cellphone

but, when shes up too something and is busy and cant get back to me just be patient and wait for the reply? dont msg her a few times just because shes not replying to me?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Right. If she doesn’t reply, then don’t keep trying to contact her. It’s going to get annoying to her and drive her away. 😳

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