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[color=#000000]I was dating this guy for 1 yr.We started having arguements everyday over stupied things.More his fault.We hadnt broken up or ended the relationship.Then I found out he had started seeing someone which was only supposing to be helping him out in his work.I obviously asked about it and told him to hit the road.That it is over.Untill I was sure he was still my “boyfriend”.Although he didnt want to except and kept lying to me about her and saying he is focused on only work and that I should give him time until he finishes his project and that he isnt into any women or anything other than work.I knew,cause he was keeping a distance not calling or not wanting to see me 😆 After my insistiency,he sat me down and explained to me about how it happened and that he wasnt in love only to get over me bla bla.I did NOT believe 1 word.And I told him that.The funny thing is that he blamed me for it and still does till today.”I made him go to her” he says.He is the one that cheated but I am the one to blame for it 😕 It really freaks me.Its been over a month now, he is still with the lady, but he keeps calling me and messaging my phone coming to my gym trying to see me.I stay out of his way and not try to see him at all or dont go to places we went or answer his calls/messages.Lately,he has started to harrass me.Wanting to meet,or call or see him,even go on holiday with him? 😯 When I dont answer his calls or messages he then gets agressive and starts to threaten me to see him or he will do this and that.I think he is angry because I moved on more faster then him,dont care,while he wanted me to be all cried eyes and all on the floor for him.After all he has done,he asks me if I am seeing someone else right now and that if I am true to him he will never bother me again.PLEASEEEE.But I know that is not true.He wants to know if I am doing what he did.I am not seeing anyone.I guess he is confused with himself.The worst it that he says he misses me,he is willing to give her up,he dosent care about her,and its only 1 month relationship so easy for him to finish,he used to have fun with me,and that he is not happy,ı was right,cant get me out of his mind and that he apologises for what he did.Funny thing is that he is still with her and everyday they are together 😀 he thinks I dont know.He says he threatens me because of the love he has for me.I dont believe any word of it.He lies,and still continues too.He says all these things but he is still with her? 😕 CRAZY,I think so.What is he trying to do? just till last night he was messaging me till late midnight.He does this eventhough I said it is over thier is no way back.He said he wanted another chance with me and that he is going to give up everything and that if we could start from zero again.I said no chance you made your choice now be happy with her.The last message I got was “okey,I am going to leave you alone for good.I understand now that it is over”, But he did the same thing a few days ago,then after 3-4 days he starts bugging again.Please give me advice on what to do with him??or at least give me an idea on what he is trying to do…thanks 😉 [/color]

[Ask April Masini]

He’s trying to date you and this other woman. Don’t be surprised if more women that he’s hiding from you crop up. Some people like drama and he is one of them. If you don’t want him in your life then don’t take his calls or his texts or e-mails. Don’t engage in any way. The more you engage, it’s like throwing crumbs to a squirrel — they’ll follow the trail. So just stop giving him any contact and eventually, he’ll go away.

I hope that helps! 😀

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