[blueeyedyella]

Ive been dating my current boyfriend for about six months, its been long distance as he is in the armed forces and stationed elsewhere. He claims he loves me and want to marry me one day, but than we had an issue with his ex and him contacting which they both admit has stopped now. But my trust in him has faded and now everything he does confuses me, he doesnt call when he says he will, he constantly askes me why Im with him and he thinks I can do better, I even over heard a conversation between him and a friend where they were laughing and making a joke about me wanting to change jobs when we do get married, acting like he wasnt interested in marriage( his phone called me back accidentally), he never use to turn his phone off so I can get him and now its always off. But he doesnt want me to break up with him, he claims he loves me and he is in it for life, but than he acts so strange. He wasnt always like this should I hang in or leave? Is it my imagination or is he just not that in to me anymore?

[Ask April Masini]

You’re talking a lot about what [i]he[/i] wants. The trick for you is to figure out what [b]YOU[/b] want. Since he seems to be confusing you, you have a harder job in assessing the situation and deciding how to act, yourself.

Since you’ve only been dating six months, I’m not sure how many of those six months he’s been away. That would be good to know. You also didn’t make clear the nature of the contact between your boyfriend and his ex-girlfriend so I don’t know if he slept with her or just chatted with her on the internet, and how long that contact went on.

While there seems to be a lot unanswered, I think it would be wise for you to continue to play the field and consider other men as potential boyfriends. Actions always speak louder than words, and I think you have to weight his actions more heavily than you do his words.

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