Hi April,
A bit of background: I am 26 years old and my girlfriend is 23. I’ve been in a relationship with her for about 3 years and we had a solid relationship. We always respect each other.
There was a strong connection in the beginning. I looked forward to see her all the time, we had great conversations and there was definitely chemistry both emotionally and physically. It felt exciting.
But over these past two months, something shifted for me. The “spark” is not there anymore. We still spend time together but it feels more like we are going through the motions. Our conversations are mostly about daily routines, work or what to eat and even when we go out, it doesn’t feel special anymore.
She didn’t do anything wrong,which makes me feel guilty. She is still kind and supportive. She seems happy with how things are. but I find myself questioning my feelings.
I don’t know if this is just a normal phase in a long-term relationship that I need to push through or if this is a sign that something important is missing. I also don’t know if trying to “force” the spark back is realistic.
I haven’t talked to her about this because I don’t want to hurt her.
Is this something that can come back with effort or is it usually a sign that the relationship has run its course?
Thank you in advance for your advice.
