[Carl Matthew]

Hey my name is Carl, I’m 28, I realized that my problem in my relationship is how I communicate. I love my girlfriend so much but I’m having a hard time explaining things to her in a way she can clearly understand. Sometimes I bottle stuff up, other times I say too much at the wrong time and it just ends up causing misunderstandings. I want to be able to talk about my emotions in a way that she can understand me. I also wanna understand her better and make sure we’re on the same page but it feels like every talk about feelings can get awkward or tense. I know communication’s super important but I don’t know how to start a proper conversation without making the situation worse. How do you even get better at expressing your feelings honestly and clearly while still keeping the connection strong?
Thanks for any advice.

[Logan]

You are suffering from ‘Emotional Constipation’. When you keep things bottled up inside, they rot inside, and then when they explode, it feels like an explosion, not communication.
A girl doesn’t want ‘clear understanding’, she wants consistency. If you erupt like an emotional volcano every two months, of course, she’s going to feel awkward!
I think be a little “alpha” but with a little ‘soft’ touch. Don’t add tension by tagging the conversation as serious talk, just say it casually, ‘Listen, there was something on my mind, I thought I would share it.
Ask April, what do you think about this?

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