[Miles]

I am 23 and my ex-boyfriend is 24. I broke up with him 2 weeks ago. We’ve been together for about 2 years. It was not a big fight but we decided to end our relationship. I really care about him and I feel like my feelings for him is still here. I’ve been thinking about what went wrong and trying to improve myself but I don’t know how to approach him. I want him to be with me again but I also don’t want to look desperate to get him back. Do you have suggestions for other ways to reconnect and rebuild attraction after breakup?

[Gerald23]

Try being friendly with him first. But for a girl, it can really look desperate when she’s the one chasing, so I don’t really advise that kind of approach.
It might be better for you to just move on and try to find Mr. Right in someone else.

You’re still young, and you’re sure to meet a lot more people.

[Karyll Jane]

Try to feel things out first and see if he still has feelings for you. It’s hard to bring a relationship back if you’re the only one who still cares while he doesn’t feel anything anymore.
Try texting him and starting conversations. That way, you’ll notice if he still has the interest to reply and talk to you and if he’s willing to make time for you.
If you feel that he still has feelings for you, then talk to him properly about whether your relationship can be rebuilt. If you do try again, there should be real improvements this time.

[Amelia]

You said that ‘I’m trying to improve myself’, which is often a lie we give ourselves. No one ‘improves’ in two weeks. You are actually improving your packaging to show your ex, look what you’ve lost. Real improvement happens when you work not to get your ex back, but to be better in the next relationship.
The best way to get back in touch is not to improve, but to make him realize that your life is great without him. As long as he doesn’t miss you, the attraction won’t rebuild. Two weeks is too soon; he hasn’t even breathed a sigh of relief yet!
AskApril, what is your opinion on this? Do you agree with my opinion? We are waiting for your expert advice.

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