I’ve been seeing a guy since last month and things are going well. We laugh a lot, text every day and hang out sometimes. I really like him and I’m starting to wonder if we should talk about being exclusive. I don’t want to rush him or make things awkward but I also don’t want to keep guessing about what is the label between us. How do you know the right time to bring up relationship status without getting someone off? And how do you approach the conversation so it feels natural rather than intense? Btw, I’m 21 and he is 24.
First of all, why are you the one doing the pursuing? That’s not really something a girl usually does. What is that—are you the one giving gifts and even the one inviting him out to eat, and you’re the one paying too? Isn’t that supposed to be the guy’s role?
If that’s your approach, you might end up being taken advantage of. It might be better to just wait for them to make the first move. If they don’t do it, then maybe you’re really not meant to be. It’s really that simple.
For me, don’t rush things yet. Like you said, you just started seeing each other last month, so give it more time to really get to know each other.
Maybe wait for him to be the one to open up first and ask if you can be exclusive, since he’s the guy and he might take the lead on that.
For now, just go with the flow and enjoy your “getting-to-know-each-other” stage and the mutual understanding you’re building.
It’s only been a month. People are showing their best version at this time. I think you are rushing into this because you’ve started to really like him, but the guy is just passing the time right now
You should have an open and honest conversation with him; getting clarity is much better than staying in doubt.
If asking questions turns a guy off, it means he was never serious. Waiting for the “right time” is often a waste of time.
