[The Angels]

Did I mess up with this girl?

I don’t date often, but I took a girl to dinner and I didn’t make much eye contact with her during the date, even though she was trying to look at me. I was a bit stressed about work and I guess my mind was elsewhere. Plus I was slightly tired. She pointed it out afterwards, saying I’m “hard to figure out”, largely due to my lack of eye contact.

How long is one supposed to hold eye contact…? Because I always assumed that if you just stare at someone’s eyes indefinitely that it will just become creepy. Surely one must shift their gaze routinely from time to time during conversation…

I think another thing was a self-esteem issue. She was very attractive and I felt way out of my league. I just asked her out just to take a “risk” and see where it goes. She accepted but I think I blew it in the end.

But yeah, prior to the date she spoke with me often through texts & Facebook and whatnot… but since the date, she slowly drifted off and now she’s in to some other guy, and largely doesn’t talk to me anymore.

Other mistakes I felt I made was that I didn’t smile much (at times I did when talking about pleasurable topics), and I didn’t really do much in the way of complimenting her in either looks or personality. I think I didn’t compliment her because I was obsessed with not coming off as one of those guys who wanted “sex” and thus constantly telling her how “hot” she is.

What would a woman think about some guy who didn’t make much eye-contact in a date? And why is eye-contact important?

Signed,

Admittedly Socially Awkward Guy

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re right. You blew it. 😳

Women want to know that a guy likes them — so eye contact, compliments and smiling are all tools that you pull out when you’re into a woman. If you don’t smile, don’t have much eye contact and don’t compliment her, you’re, instead, sending her the signal that you’re not that into her. So, she moved on.

You’re not alone in feeling like you’re out of a woman’s league — in fact, I’ve met so many men who feel the same way you do, that I wrote a book called [b]Date Out of Your League[/b], specifically for guys like you. Buy it and read it! Here’s the link: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url]. You’ll get a lot of really good information, tips and advice to help you turn your dating game around, in this book.

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[The Angels]

Thanks April… I will check out your book! 😉

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re very welcome.

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