There is this guy who started working in my building five months ago. I had an instant crush on him. His job has nothing to do with mine, and we have no reason to ever see each other on a regular basis. Every indication is that he is single, no mention of a girlfriend, his recall of weekends is usually a description of what he did with “the guys” or “a buddy of mine”.
He comes to my area once a day and chats with me for up to an hour at a time. After a few months of his visits, getting to know each other, etc. I invited him to go to a baseball game with me (I was given tickets). He said yes, I met him at his house, he drove, paid for everything, he took me to his recording studio where I met one of his friends, we hung out at his house afterwards, and the night ended with a long hug. During the 12 hour date he confided in me about his childhood, friends, you know, deeper conversation.
The following Friday he asked me out for drinks. He said he would swing by my area on his way out. He never stopped by, and when I sent him a text to ask if he was still at work, he wrote back saying no, he left already but wished me a good weekend. WTF? Ask someone out and bail all in the same day?
That was two months ago. The daily visits continued, and I played it cool. I invited him a week or two ago to join in with me and my immediate co-workers (whom he doesn’t know well) to a festival on a Friday night. He was really interested earlier in the week, but when I sent him a text the night before he said he couldn’t go because he had freelance work that evening. Fair enough.
Despite our inability to get together outside of work, his visits to my area have become more frequent, he hangs out longer each time, and we even have lunch together. The tension between us is so thick you could cut it with a knife. He’s not the alpha male kind of guy, he’s sort of a geeky tech person. That being said, he’s not afraid to approach people, and he is good looking (or so I think…) I get hints that he is very cautious about how he comes across to others, and I’ve seen him clam up and get shy in certain conversations with me. I’ve also seem him be very outgoing (never with other women though).
I’d like to highlight the fact that the only reason we even TALK is because of his visits to my area to see me. I’d see him once a week, for a half hour maybe, if he didn’t make the effort.
To me, this would be a slam dunk, no doubt, except…why isn’t he asking me out? He’s 31 years old (I am 28) and I don’t think little kid games apply here.
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