Got it — thanks. So, my advice is this: You need to be more honest with yourself about your dating life.
When I asked you why your boyfriend of a year was arrested, you said he was arrested because he e-mailed an ex-girlfriend. 😕 Nobody gets arrested for e-mailing. They do, however, get arrested for violating a restraining order, which I’m guessing from what you didn’t say, is the reason for his arrest. And restraining orders are only issued if someone is in danger. Therefore, it’s of concern that you’re letting a guy who’s got a restraining order against him, watch your children. 😮
Next, you have to understand that the internet is a GREAT place to meet people to date, but you have to vet these people because (newsflash!) not everyone who looks for dates on the internet is honest. Your excuse that by the time you actually met this guy, you were too emotionally involved to sort out the fact that he’d lied about his age — isn’t a great one. It’s fine to flirt and get to know one another online, but you have to treat dating seriously, and the first date should be one where you decide if this is someone you want to continue seeing — not a time when you realize he’s lied, but you’re already too emotionally involved to back off. 😉
If, after a year of dating, you’re not sure you can trust him, don’t. You can’t date the way someone without kids can. You have to be more careful and have more filters than someone without children. The restraining order, the arrest, the problems he’s having with his own ex-wife and child — these aren’t great facts for someone you want to bring into your life, or your kid’s’ lives. 🙂 I think you know enough about him to walk away.
I hope that helps!
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