[Sarah]

I really need some advice because I’m feeling confused and stuck. My name is Sarah, I’m 26 and I have my boyfriend Alex, he is 28. We are together for about 2 years. He is sweet, funny and attentive. But there are moments that makes me confused. He will make jokes that feel hurtful and when I tell him it bothers me he will say I’m “too sensitive.” We also argue over small things and making non-sense conversation. I love him and care about our relationship but I keep wondering, is this normal or am I in a toxic relationship? Have you been in a relationship like this before or encountered something similar? How do you tell the difference between a hard time and a truly unhealthy relationship?

[Abegail]

That’s not an unhealthy relationship yet—that’s normal. Arguing and having disagreements is part of any relationship.

An unhealthy relationship is something more serious, like when it becomes toxic—controlling, abusive physically or emotionally, no trust anymore, repeated cheating, lying, and similar behaviors.

What you have is still normal. That’s really how relationships are. There is no perfect relationship, and no couple goes through life without arguments.

[Nicole]

An unhealthy relationship is when you can no longer agree on things and there’s constant conflict. I think he may just be immature if he tends to joke in that way. If you want your relationship to improve, try opening up to him about the things you feel are wrong in his behavior so he can realize it and adjust.

But if he is not open to that kind of conversation, then that becomes a problem because it seems like he is not willing to accept any fault in the relationship. A healthy relationship should always be give and take.

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