I’m hoping to get some perspective. I’m Lily 27, and I was in a relationship with my ex Mark 29, for 2 years. During the relationship, I felt like my feelings didn’t matter. He criticize me and make decisions without asking my opinion and sometimes he makes me feel guilty for things that were my fault. There are times when he is over charming and attentive. almost like a completely different person and suddenly become cold again in a few days later. I left the relationship because it was so exhausting and now I keep wondering if I was dealing with a narcissist person.
How can you tell if someone has narcissistic tendencies compared to being selfish or immature? How do I heal from a relationship like this?
You can tell if a person has narcissistic tendencies when they are overly self-centered, constantly seek attention and praise, and lack empathy for others. They always prioritize their own wants and needs, become easily irritated when criticized, and feel like they are special and should always be favored.
To avoid problems, it’s better to leave them and find someone who doesn’t have those kinds of behaviors.
Based on his behavior, you can usually notice it if a person never admits fault, always wants to be in control, and doesn’t accept when they are wrong. It often feels like they always think they are right.
To recover, focus on yourself. Find things that will keep you busy so you can heal faster. You can also try dating other people again—it might help you move on. Joining online dating or spending time with friends can also help. Just don’t allow yourself to be alone too much.
